So after months of striking out, after months of visiting my older lova, I’ve finally done it….I managed to snag a date with a boy. While traditional dating has always been a goal for me since coming out of the closet I’ve found that it isn’t as easy as I naively thought. I’ve found it hard to meet nice guys who just want to go to the movies or out for coffee etc. I’ve also found it hard to keep my gay hormones at bay enough to go on a date (I get a drink in me and the next thing I know I want to devour the guy in front of me instead of going on a nice date to the movies, come on you’ve never felt that way?)….I don’t know perhaps I don’t have the self control I once thought I did? But last night the stars aligned and the universe seemed to favor me…but not without some trials and tribulations!
I had met Brad at the bar last week while I was doing mental battle with Will and though he might be nice to get to know. Low and behold he was at the bar again last night. So me and my friend Steve head on over to get a drink and he starts making small talk with us and we end up just chatting for a bit. It was a good start to the evening….although I did have to reintroduce myself cause he was drunk last week and couldn’t remember me. (I know what you are thinking Sammy’s hittin’ on the drunken ones again) Steve leaves for a bit to find some of his friends and as we talk we comment on guys etc and I don’t know whether he is hitting on me or trying to avoid me. At one point he motions to a particularly good looking guy who I secretly know. This guy is nothing but trouble! And Brad mentions how good looking he is. This guy is 30, overly tanned, and a myriad of gay stereotypes. I’m in no way attracted to him and all I can think is other guys find this attractive….I mean lets just say there isn’t much going on behind the eyes if you get my drift. Now I on the other hand am the complete opposite. I’m 26, 5’8”, tanned only during the summer, drink beer, and I fancy myself to have a decent intellect and wit. All I can think is if Brad finds this guy attractive there is not a chance in the world for me because I am totally opposite. We eventually part ways, he goes to the front of the bar and I close out my tab. I end up talking with some of my lesbian friends for a bit and eventually find myself back out front…Imagine my surprise when Brad asks if I’m going to dance with him. I’m pretty please and we head off to cut a rug. (Of course I said cut a rug.)
Let me give you an idea of Sammy and dancing. I love it! I’m not the best at it but my motto is an empty dance floor is a sad dance floor. Now at the straight bars I will let loose and have a great time dancing it is a completely different story at the gay bar. I tend to be more self aware at the gay bar and dancing…far be it from me to dance badly and end up cursing my dating probability LOL. So I’m on the dance floor and dancing with Brad when the guy from the bar (the one Brad had pointed out earlier comes over and begins trying to dance with Brad)……all I can think is, “no you don’t…I’ve worked far to hard to get to this point to have you come in here and try and steal this guy I want to ask out on a date.” That’s it IT’S A MOTHER FUCKIN DANCE OFF!!!! Me and Mr. String bean dancing it out for the affections of Brad. It’s a mind blowing spectacle that Mr. String Bead doesn’t even know he is participating…Hair flying, sweat running and I’m giving it my all….okay it wasn’t quite like that I was shimmying and be-bopping around just trying to keep String Bean away. I did have some unexpected help though…it came in the form of a straight girl that kept dancing up on String Bean. Go team Sammy! When all has died down I find myself victorious….until Brad leans over and says to me, “you don’t have to dance all ghetto like.” I said I was a decent dancer not the best mind you… But anyhow we end up by the bar and have the oddest discussion. Brad who is now drunk continues telling me how all the guys he’s hooked up with and tried to date were all wrong and hasn’t worked out for him. He continues to tell me that he thinks String Bean is hot but he clicked with me first and how important sexual attraction is….As I mentioned before I am nothing like String Bean and I am trying to figure out if he is trying to hint to me that he isn’t interested. I just can’t tell and that drives me nuts. So I get a text and end up having to go close out my friends tab I head to the back bar, figuring that Brad isn’t interested and I’m not going to give him my number, but invite him to come with me. He accepts and I’m a little forlorn over these recent developments. At the bar we keep chatting and he again tells me that all the guys he’s attracted to are no good and usually end badly, which makes me feel like he is looking for something different (yours truly ;)) But I am confused as hell right now and really not wanting to make a full of myself. That’s when he asks if I have his number to which I reply no and he proceeds to give it to me. I’m texting my number to him when Steve shows up ready to leave and I decide to ask Brad out. I tell him if he is looking for something different then perhaps he and I could catch a movie on Friday. It’s simple not very committal just something different that isn’t a hook up after a boozy night at the gay bar. Then he says, surprisingly, “Great, but” there is always a but, he works on Fridays. Well it ends up that we will be going out to the movies tonight. Gulp much quicker than I had anticipated! At this point he leans over and asks if this is a date and I say yes and his face seems to give off a look of approval. Then he kisses me on the lips. Shocked I was in shock. So I have to call him today and give him times so we can go out.
I have some reservations about the date tonight; Brad is definitely not someone I had ever expected to land a date with nor does he remotely come close to guys that I’ve pictured myself with. They say variety is the spice of life well this is definitely variety in my life at the moment. I telling myself keep and open mind enjoy the date and the whole point about dating is that you get to see what the person is like and a date doesn’t mean a commitment either. I will give you all the dirty details later this week 😉