Posted in Biden, blog, Coming out, community, David J. Jefferson, Erie, Erie PA, Erie Protest, Gay, gay marriage, gay rights, homosexual, Join The Impact, life, Newsweek, Obama, Presque Isle Files, protest, Sammy25, tagged Biden, blog, Coming out, community, David J. Jefferson, Erie, Erie PA, Erie Protest, Gay, gay marriage, gay rights, homosexual, Join The Impact, life, Newsweek, Obama, Presque Isle Files, protest, Sammy25 on November 20, 2008|
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So I’ve been surfing around the interweb and discovered a few things that you should read. There is a blog post about Prop 8 that is just a great post. I know when you read it you will want to click off of it but read it the entire way though. You have to trust me on this one…just keep reading! It is a great post that culturepress shared with me….check her out on my blogroll.
The second thing I have for you to read is an essay by David J. Jefferson who writes for Newsweek. It describes his marriage to his parter in CA and his thoughts regarding the passage of Prop 8. It is a great article and I urge you to read it.
Next http://jointheimpact.wetpaint.com/?t=anon has a variety of events coming up. Since the gay movement is revitalizing they are planning a big event every month to let people know we aren’t just going to go away. The next events are the postcard writing campaign and Dec. 10th A Day Without Gay. I hope you will all write postcards to Obama’s transition office whether you are gay or a straight supporter do it. Again, we need to increase visiablilty. Those people who want to take away our rights and those representatives that are to scared to stand up for us depend on us to be quiet and to stay closeted. The louder we are, the more we are out the more people have take notice. No longer can we just stand here and depend on others or wait for someone else to fight our battles, we have to do this on our own and we have to visible members of the larger community.
Liberty and Justice for some or for all?
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Posted in Adoption, America, Arizona, Biden, blog, California Constitution, campaign, choices, civil unions, classification system, Coming out, community, Erie, Erie PA, Flordia, future, Gay, Gay Adoption, gay marriage, gay rights, homosexual, hope, life, marginalize, Obama, president, Presque Isle Files, Proposition 8, Sammy25, second class citizen, support, Vice President, tagged Adoption, America, Arizona, Biden, blog, California Constitution, campaign, choices, civil unions, classification system, Coming out, community, Erie, Erie PA, Flordia, future, Gay, Gay Adoption, gay marriage, gay rights, homosexual, hope, life, marginalize, Obama, president, Presque Isle Files, Proposition 8, Sammy25, second class citizen, support, Vice President on November 10, 2008|
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For those of you who voted for Prop 8 (or any other Prop defining marriage as being between a man and woman) in an effort to support a “traditional marriage” and/or preserve “family values” lets take a moment and look at some things.
While you denied me my right to marry, you allow those heterosexual couples that sexually, mentally, and verbally abuse each other the right to marry. Is that your idea of a traditional marriage or good values or a good environment to raise a child?
While you denied me my right to marry, you allow those men and women with drug problems to marry and raise a family. Is that your idea of family values?
While you denied me my right to marry, you allowed children to languish in a state system because you refuse to allow unmarried people to adopt. Is that your idea of a good personal moral compass?
While you voted yes for Prop 8 you easily took rights away from me and other gay couples. Tell me was it easy for you to check yes? Do you sleep easily at night knowing you marginalize people? I’m guessing you probably do.
Well here is what I think…Any woman that voted for Prop 8 or any definition of marriage being between a man and a woman should have her right to vote taken away from her. It seems only fair considering we celebrated the 88th anniversary of your right to vote. You know the saying “an eye for any eye”…well now it should be a right for a right.
For any man that voted for Prop 8 or any definition of marriage being between a man and a woman you are small minded. Your inability to see past us being gay to realize that we are people just the same as you and deserve the same rights exemplifies just how narrow minded you are. You should have your right to freedom of speech taken away because what you have to say is filled with lies and bigotry. You take away one of my rights I should be allowed to take away one of your rights.
For any mormon that voted for Prop 8 or any definition of marriage being between a man and a woman you pouring 20 million into supporting Prop 8 shows me that you are scared worthless people. Your right to practice your religion freely should be taken away and we should get to persecute you.
For any Senator, State Representative or person holding public office if you state that you want to protect the rights of the gay community but believe marriage is between a man and a woman you make it morally acceptable for people to marginalize us. You lack the ability to stand up for those of us that have been marginalized and we deserve a strong voice in office that will stand up and fight for us and not just for another term in office.
For the members of the gay community that read this…now is the time to be angry. It is time we define ourselves differently. No longer should we be a gay community, we are a community committed to gay rights. We are committed to rights that we deserve and should be willing to have our voices heard for. Now is the time to picket the churches that we go to that depend on our patronage to continue. We shouldn’t give our money to them the same way they won’t give us the right to marry. Now is the time to have open discourse and discussion with those people who don’t believe we should marry and educate them properly. We need to show them that we are not a group of people who deserve to be marginalized. It is time for us to be angry and upset and it is time for us to be heard.
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Posted in African Americans, America, Biden, blog, California Constitution, community, crazy, Erie, Erie PA, future, Gay, gay marriage, gay rights, homosexual, hope, ironic, life, Mormons, Obama, Presque Isle Files, Proposition 8, sad, Sammy25, tagged African Americans, America, Biden, blog, California Constitution, community, crazy, Erie, Erie PA, future, Gay, gay marriage, gay rights, homosexual, hope, ironic, life, Mormons, Obama, Presque Isle Files, Proposition 8, sad, Sammy25 on November 6, 2008|
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So I’ve been mulling over some of the reasons why the gays in California had their right to marry taken away from them. On the surface you see California being more liberal in its decisions and view points. It is home to the Castro District; moreover San Francisco itself is a liberal/gay Mecca. You have Berkley and so on. All these free thinking individuals in a state that went blue on Nov. 4th and the gays were still denied had their right to marry taken away. Not just taken away, the California State Constitution was amended to define marriage as being between a man and a woman. It’s like taking three giant steps backwards.
As I was sifting though the numerous quantities of internet information on the passing of Prop 8 I stumbled across several pieces of information that I find to be interesting.
First, the Mormons siphoned millions upon millions of dollars (upwards around 22 million dollars!!!) into getting Prop 8 passed. Alright then, if that’s what they wanted then that is what they got. Now it’s time to hear my terms and conditions for them. I want to attend your church. No I don’t want to go though all the hub-bub of becoming a Mormon…no no no. I just want to be able to walk into their church and participate…including weddings. I don’t think that’s much to asking. I mean since they have taken issue with what goes on in my bedroom then I should be able to see what goes on in their churches…and by go on I mean seeing everything. Somehow deep inside I don’t think they would let me in. I wonder why? Why are they so secretive? Why can’t I come and participate? More importantly, why did liberal Californians trust them enough to vote with them? Why is it that people will follow blindly with a group that won’t open the doors to their church to anyone? Also why do they get to define what “traditional/traditional marriage is?” If I’m not mistaken they aren’t necessarily the most traditional group ever. Well let’s just get one thing straight…If you are a mormon I’m judging you. Yes, I’m judging you and that’s what you get for following a church that got its beliefs from a man (Joseph Smith Jr.) who found your beliefs on gold plates.
The second areas I want to look at are the exit polls regarding Prop 8. So on a CNN blog they gave the following information on Prop 8 exit polls. (the link will be below)
“If the trend holds, younger, first-time voters can be said to be responsible for Proposition 8’s defeat. Voters between the ages of 18 and 29 opposed the proposition 66 percent to 34 percent; voters 30-64 were evenly split; voters 65 and above favored the amendment 57 percent to 43 percent.
First-time voters cast their ballots against the proposition by a 64 percent to 36 percent margin. The rest of the electorate favored the amendment 52 percent to 48 percent.
Californians who attend church weekly voted for Proposition 8 by an 83 percent to 17 percent. Those who attended church occasionally voted 40 percent in favor and 60 percent opposed. Californians who never attend church were 14 percent in favor and 86 percent against.
College graduates opposed Proposition 8 by a 57 percent to 43 percent margin. Those without a college degree favored it, 53 percent to 47 percent.
African-Americans voted for Proposition 8 by a 69 percent to 31 percent margin. However, 55 percent of white voters and 52 percent of Hispanics voted against the proposition.”
At first looking at this I found nothing to surprising. I’m not surprised that the educated individuals and the young voters opposed the amendment. I’m not surprised that those people who attended church regularly supported the amendment. I mean you eventually get use church goers being blinded and brain washed enough by organized religions to never be able to make decisions for themselves. Who doesn’t love an antiquated book with a patchwork of stories, the bible, and a priest; aid you in your decision making? **insert sarcasm**
What did surprise me was how the African Americans voted. A whopping 69% of African Americans voted for Prop 8. 69%. I find this particularly upsetting considering their own struggles with civil rights. I took a Civil Rights course while in college and I found it somewhat comforting to know there were others that had to fight for their rights. They understood our plight. Granted it wasn’t nearly the same kind of fight, but we could commiserate to some extent. Well apparently the African Americans do not feel the same way about us gays. I think it is particularly hard when a marginalized group attacks another marginalized group. It stings a little more because the connection that we thought, or at least I thought, shared. Well now it’s just plain HYPOCRISY!
I just want you to know that you made history not once but twice election night. You helped vote into office the first African American President…but…you also took rights away from people too…welcome to the majority.
Finally, to those of you who will read this blog, don’t share my beliefs, and want to comment. If I find your comment particularly cruel I’ll remove it. Also, make sure it’s not anonymous and that I’m able to link back to your blog. There is nothing less appealing than someone who will insult your stance but are to chicken shit to leave a name or their blog.
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So first off I would like to say that I’ve officially reached 26 today the 5th of November! Yes the most important time in American politics lands right on the eve, or on the day of my birthday. But lets be serious, the American people aren’t really celebrating the election of a new leader for our nation…they are celebrating my…ahem…birth. To continue celebrating my birth…here is a gratuitous man picture…enjoy…it is my gift to you 😉
Now let’s get down to brass tacks my friends. I began my blog several months ago to try and figure out what I lacked and needed to do with my life. While I look back at my posts and recount the many fun times I’ve had I’ve also noticed that I am not really where I wanted to be by the time I turned 26. I thought at this point in my life after being partially out of the closet I’d have significant other. I don’t have a significant other, but I do have someone I full around with pretty consistently…even if he is much older than me. I thought I’d have a job in my field, I don’t, but Does it count if I’ve applied??? These two notions make me kind of anxious considering I am closing in on 30. It isn’t that I’m getting older it’s just that I’m not where I thought I’d be in life by 26. I’m at a state of stasis right now…consistent yet happy, but I’m going to need some changes real soon. Okay so enough of this feelings conversation…I hope you all go out and have some good old booze gay man fun to celebrate my introduction to the world! Cheers for now.
So originally when I finished this blog the 2008 election wasn’t over now that it’s over there are a few things I would like to get off my chest. First and for most…shame on you Florida, California, Arizona, and Arkansas…you’ve taken away peoples rights. On what basis did you take these rights away, fear and your religion???? This breaks my heart to know that there are people out there that feel the need to marginalize others. That is what they did plain and simple. Secondly, I just want to say that for those of you gay men and women who want to adopt, don’t do it. I hate to say it and it isn’t pretty to say but if people want to deny marriage then why should we help those children that languish in a state system. I’ve talked about this before and I genuinely hate to know that children will suffer from this but why should we gays sink money into state systems that feel the need to deny us our right to marry. I say let the systems fill with children until states realize that these kids could have wonderful loving homes but because of their moral issues they won’t get a home.
I know it crass, mean, and down right deplorable of me to say but why is it that we have to take the moral high road. You know what I’m saying, that voice in your head, your conscious that goes, “you know even though people have taken your right to marry away we should still adopt because there are children that need us…it’s for them.” Screw that I’m over being Mr. Nice Gay. I’m sick and tired about people being so scared of gay marriage. Is it really that crazy or scary that two men and two women love each other and want the sanctity of a marriage to prove their love and devotion to each other?
The other thing that I’m kinda over is people calling us progressive as a nation. Yes we are progressive but I believe we are selectively progressive. Don’t get me wrong I’m enthralled at having Obama as my President. But if we were progressive don’t you think that gay rights would have won. People “selected” not to progress gay rights. We only choose to be progressive when we want to or when the time is right. We tout being progressive but I just think we pick and choose our areas of progression based on how we feel at that time. I mean we chose to progress in some areas of animal rights and abortion.
On a final note I just want to say I hope Obama and Biden stay true to their word protecting what gay rights we have. I have said from the beginning that I was a Clinton supporter, but when she did not get the nod for the presidential position I was left with Obama and McCain…obviously I would not vote for McCain so that left Obama. The hardest thing for me to swallow about Obama was that both he and Biden stood up and said they will protect gay rights but believed that marriage was between a man and a woman. First, I believe marriage is a right that should be given to me…and currently the states show that they don’t believe in that right, secondly, people look to Obama and Biden as not only leaders of our nation but as moral leaders too. When these two men stood up at the debates and said they believed that marriage was between a man and a woman they told people that is okay to give certain rights to gays. They made it okay, they made it comfortable, acceptable, for people to give certain rights to the gays while still holding them an arms length away from total equality. Because of this I came down with the choice of either not voting for Obama or compromising the feelings I have about equality for gays for the greater good. That’s not an easy decision to be asked or to be made. What makes the decision even worse is that Obama is in office and that is great but will he and Biden do anything to help the gays in the state that just had their rights to adoption and marriage taken away from them, or will they just support the rights for gays to visit their loved ones in hospitals etc? I think it is an important question we have to ask ourselves and our new President and our new Vice President. Like I said I’m not bashing Obama and Biden. I am just a concerned, marginalized, second class citizen who has questions and is hoping for change.
Okay now I’m over my political rant. This should be a happy day so as a gift to me go out and get drunk and have some crazy gay fun times with the people you care about the most.
P.S. Congrats to Obama and Biden! Let hear it for change!
P.P.S. I think it’s kind cool that I get to share my birthday with a significan piece of American history!!!!!
I’m making my birthday wish and it’s for some of the items below! 😉
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Posted in Biden, blog, Erie, Erie PA, Gay, homosexual, hottie mchotterson, McCain, November, Obama, Palin, president, Presque Isle Files, Proposition 8, Sammy25, Vice President, tagged Biden, blog, Erie, Erie PA, Gay, homosexual, hottie mchotterson, McCain, November, Obama, Palin, president, Presque Isle Files, Proposition 8, Sammy25, Vice President, voting on November 4, 2008|
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Just a quick note:
DON’T FORGET TO VOTE!!!!
It’s your civic duty and it shouldn’t be taken for granted. Also, let hope that Prop. 8 does not pass…I’ve got my fingers crossed for you in CA. I have already voted…7:30 a.m. this morning bitches. No I’m not going to tell you who I voted for…and yes it did come down to standing at the voting booth. No I didn’t flip a coin I made an informed decision. Here is a little something to get you to the polls!!!! 😉
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Posted in Biden, blog, busy, California Constitution, California Supreme Court, choices, co-worker, community, Craig, crushes, Dating, election, Erie, Erie PA, flirting, future, Gay, gay marriage, gay rights, homosexual, hope, horny, hypocrites, Lauren, life, Love, Lucy, November, Obama, older men, president, Presque Isle Files, Prop 22, Proposition 8, roommate, Sammy25, sexy time friends, support, Vice President, VP Debate, tagged Biden, blog, busy, California Constitution, California Supreme Court, choices, co-worker, community, Craig, crushes, Dating, election, Erie, Erie PA, flirting, future, Gay, gay marriage, gay rights, homosexual, hope, horny, hypocrites, Lauren, life, Love, Lucy, November, Obama, older men, president, Presque Isle Files, Prop 22, Proposition 8, roommate, Sammy25, sexy time friends, support, Vice President, VP Debate on October 10, 2008|
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I know all of you that read my blog are feeling neglected and miss my gay musings. I apologize! My event for work is done but things are still flying by. I am impressed with how booked my October has been. So here are a few quick updates.
Last weekend was low key lots of laundry and wedding gift shopping. I have an uber big wedding I’m attending in Oklahoma the second to last week this month. Both myself and Lauren are going to be in the wedding. Unfortunately, I will be unable to blog that weekL. I also have two back to back weddings this weekend. The nice thing is that I am just a guest. Whew just dancing, eating, and drinking.
On the dating front….things are still a big old gay muddled mess. I met Craig out for drinks on Monday…it resulted in LOTS of fooling around in his car. It was welcomed! I tried to let Craig know that I wasn’t really looking for anything official; I’m just looking for STF aka sexy time friends. That may be mean but its true. I just hope he understands. We have emailed back and forth and talked on the phone a couple of times. I have offered myself up to have some fun times but he doesn’t seem to respond to my advances. I can’t figure out if he is just worried about it, or the age difference is too much (I am five years younger than his last boyfriend), or if he is looking for something more in terms of a relationship (which I’m not in the market for as of yet). He certainly seemed interested while his hands were down my pants. But then again, I am advocating a no strings attached fuck buddy kind of thing (excuse the swear, but I have no idea what else to call it other than “friends who occasionally see each other naked and do gay things to each other”) LOL. I’m sure this comes with the territory. It will be nice to have a weekend free where I don’t have to think about it…although I do hope to get a salacious text from him or something.
With that in mind I consider myself still on the market. Lauren just discussed with me a coworker that she has who she believes is gay and she seems to think we would be a good fit. I have stopped by at her work and she’s pointed him out to me. So last night I made an emergency stop at her place of employment with Lucy in the hopes of introducing myself to him. IT WORKED!!!! After some minor shopping, you wouldn’t believe what you home with from a store when you specifically go there to flirt with a guy, Lucy and I stepped into line. As we are standing there I ask him about his other job and he looks at me confused and I casually mention that Lauren who works with him has mentioned him a couple of times and that it was nice to put a face and a name together. I introduce myself and Lucy to him he shakes my hand. Nice firm grip…he is quiet spoken, taller than me, short almost buzzed reddish blond/brown hair, he has a beard…there is a certain dreamy quality about him. Something happened to work out in my favor, I couldn’t find an item in the store so someone had to go and get it for me…they left me at the checkout allowing me some quality time to flirt SCORE. Lucy and I get into an economic discussion while he checked someone out as I waited for my item. Afterward he finished the check out he ended up commenting on our conversation that we were having between us meaning he was listening!!! So my item comes and I check out, just before I leave I lean over and say to him “it was nice to meet you” and I think I said I hope to see him again. I think I’m not sure but besides that he responded with something like “I’ll see you again” or something like that. So it was a good gay flirting adventure. We’ll see what happens.
So that’s the mess known as my love life at the moment.
Also, in the political rant realm I would like to say
VOTE NO TO PROPOSITION 8!!
I’m over these people trying to stop gay marriage. If you vote for it you are simply voting against the “equal protection clause of the California Constitution.” Basically what people are saying is that every one is due equal protection except when it involves two men or women who love each other and want to be married. People are fucking hypocrites (and I’m not sorry about that swear).
For those of you who do not know what Proposition 8 is let me explain. When two men want to marry each other, in California, previously they would run into a little problem called Prop 22. Prop 22 defined, in California, marriage as being between a man and a woman. Just as a side note, at one point in time in California their marriage language looked like this “…defined marriage as: “a personal relation arising out of a civil context, to which consent of the parties making that contract is necessary.”” Sounds pretty gay friendly doesn’t it? Well eventually those people who can’t handle to men loving one another (and women loving women) managed to get Prop 22 passed thus gay marriage was done for. That was until May of 2008 when the California Supreme Court declared that Prop 22 violated the California Constitution. To the happy gay couples of CA this meant that they could marry, and marry they have. Now in a desperate legal turn individuals have produced Proposition 8. This is basically the same language as Prop 22 only if it wins in the voting booths in November, Proposition 8 will change the language of the California Constitution. This means the equal protection, guaranteed by the California Constitution, guarding will be done away with.
Literally the words protecting the right for men to men and women to marry women will be erased from the law. A RIGHT THAT WE DESEVER WILL BE TAKEN AWAY FROM US. I DON’T KNOW HOW CLEARLY I CAN STATE THIS. LET ME TRY AGAIN….LEGALLY PEOPLE WILL TAKE AWAY A RIGHT THAT WE WANT, DESERVE, AND CURRENTLY HAVE IN CALIFORNIA.
Now let me say this if you are gay and living in California and not registered to vote then shame on you. This is important for the gay community. I don’t care if you don’t believe in marriage or don’t want to get married. There are a significant amount of others that do want to get married and because you didn’t register to vote you are basically apathetic. Rights that we want are being taken away from us and you can’t even go register to vote is offensive. Those hypocrites that want to take away our rights depend on people like you with your apathy to help rewrite state Constitutions to their liking. It’s sickening. Also, if you are registered to vote and vote for Proposition 8 I think all your rights should be taken away from you…do you like talk of taking away your rights. I didn’t think so.
Finally, I would like to point some things out about the VP debates from last week. First, I love LOVE that Palin can tolerate me, lucky me (ahem dry sarcasm). Secondly, go figure they would spend only two questions on the whole gay marriage issue, once again we gays are second fiddle to the economy and foreign policies. Finally, I am a liberal Democrat and I would vote for Obama except Biden exemplified exactly the reason why I find it hard to vote for them. Biden stood in the national spot light and said he would protect gay rights (notice he said rights but never said marriage) but when asked if he believed in gay marriage he said personally no, the same with Obama. Now I know it is nice to finally have an Administration that will to some extent fight for gay rights, but publically Biden said he didn’t believe in gay marriage. I have to be passionate about my gay rights because there are many people who will not back them. How can I vote for someone that only goes halfway? He will protect gay rights but he doesn’t believe in gay marriage. Isn’t marriage a right I should have? It’s like me saying something like, women can vote but I personally don’t think they should vote or be in the political world.
I’ve voiced this to several of my friends who are upset over the fact that this issue is keeping me from voting for Obama (and may I say I would never vote for McCain). I’ve been told it’s the best I have right now. Well, why do I have to settle, am I not allowed to want more from my President and Vice President? It’s like being paid lip service. If Obama or Biden don’t believe in gay marriage personally how can I expect them to fight for it on a nation wide level if need be? It’s not an issue that can just be swept under the rug. How can I be sure that they would be passionate advocates as others are about gay rights and marriage? I want a politician who believes in what they say on a political and personal level and perhaps that’s more than I can ask from someone but I truly believe it is something that should be asked of our leaders.
Well that’s about it for now…I know it’s long but I had a lot to say. Have a great weekend. Let me know your thoughts about Prop 8 and the VP debate.
Here’s hoping all of you get lucky this weekend!!!!!!!
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