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I am just doing a quick shout out to my fav gay icon….It is Bette Midlers Birthday Day Today!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   You can keep your Cher and Celine!  Bette got her start in the gay bath houses of NY and has dutifully entertained we gays and fought for our rights so it is with that we pay homage to the Divine Miss M!!!!!!


(All pics are linked to their original site….please don’t sue me!)


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Today we remember two very special events in history that occured on the 5th of November.

The first is the Gunpoweder Plot that was meant to blow up Parliment in England.  The plot was discovered and stopped and one of the first prepretrators captured was Guy Fawkes.  Guy Fawke’s Night is celebrated in England to honor the saving of Parliment and the capture of Guy Fawke’s and his conspirators.  Also known as Bonfire night, the celebrations include fireworks, bonfires, and the burning of effigies.

Interesting…of course but lets be serious the other more important thing being celebrated is……this boy’s 27th birthday!  Woot woot  you heard it hear first….Sammy was born on a day where burning effigies is run of the mill…and I couldn’t be happier.

So I here is to a night filled with cake and fun.  And for my birthday wish I hope you do something that makes you wildly happy.  Below are a few things on my wish list/things that make me happy list.  Have stunning day everyone and do something that makes you smile 😉

oh. lord.

Happy Birthday to me!

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Hello everyone!  I thought I would catch up with you very quickly.  It seems since last Wednesday, when we had our gay rally, that I’ve been going full tilt and haven’t had the ability to get my feet back under me.  We planned on Wednesday for the rally.  It was cool to connect with the older gay community and they made me, Lauren, Lucy, and Steve (yes Steve I’ve kinda had a thing for) feel very welcome.


I ended up scribing for our group.  There were two; I guess you would say leaders, for us, one gay guy and one straight pastor.  We discussed a variety of plans to show our solidarity.  What we decided on was solidarity bands for our arms, red, white, and blue (because we are all American citizens) speakers, including myself and Lauren (which made me nervous because I’m not completely out) and then there was a symbolic wedding ceremony wedding all us gays and our supporters.  Our protest was set for this past Saturday on the Erie County Court House steps at 1:30pm. 


The meeting was great but there was one problem.  The straight pastor kept trying to keep things civil.  It was the whole “you can’t fight hate with hate” idea.  Which is a wonderful idea but I was hot under the collar.  I wanted some loud protests.  I wanted us to be expressive; I wanted us to use a mega-phone etc.  But this pastor kept it civil, which is probably better but to be quite frank I want people to be scared of us.  I want people to be scared of us not because we are gay but because we mean business.  I don’t force my sexuality on anyone and when people feel the need to force their own moral belief on what a marriage is on me I want them to know that I don’t like it.  I want people to take stock in what I have to say, I want to be heard and I want them to listen and answer me.  But that is just me and this being my first rally I didn’t think it would have been to great of me to high jack the rally and go on a religious crusade looking for the mormons.  I kid…and not that their would be a ton of mormons in Erie…I digress.


Also this weekend we celebrated a late birthday bar crawl for me but it was Lauren’s birthday as well.  So we had friends staying at our place from Friday until Sunday…then on Sunday Lauren’s parents and siblings came down to visit for the afternoon.  Needless to day I was constantly going this weekend.  In fact I ended up taking a mental health day yesterday.  Not only did I sleep in, I cleaned our kitchen and bathroom, did the dishes, baked a cake for Lauren’s birthday (I wanted to do laundry but our washer and dryer was out of order), and I wrapped gifts.  It was very busy.  Then I had two business meetings this morning. 


The Saturday rally was awesome.  We got an early lunch and talked about gay stuff then headed over to the court house.  We were there with our signs and umbrellas (it rained), we had our solidarity ribbons on etc.  There were a couple of speakers one of them was a lesbian I went to college with that I didn’t know was a lesbian…and I saw another girl who was a partner with me in a class that turn out was a lesbian too.  It was like we all came out to each other coming to the rally.  It was a weird but awesome moment!  Both Lauren and I spoke on the steps of the courthouse.  It was scary but empowering.  We briefly talked about how straight people need to be our voices to and help promote gay marriage and I talked about how I was a gay man and how it was unbelievable that people still try to take our rights away from us in 2008 etc.  We had between 80 to 150 people it was hard to estimate.  We ended up on a variety of news outlets.  It was really cool and empowering.  I felt like a part of a community for the first time.  There were no real protestors protesting us.  We did have a variety of people drive past and beep for us from their cars which was awesome.  Afterwards we went to a coffee house with others from the community and other supporters.  It was cool getting to know others.  Plus I’ve decided to try and get a little more into some community activism.  So we will see how it goes.  Overall it has been going going going.  I want to say that I’m ready for Thanksgiving break but it is going to be just as busy at break as it is now.  I have work stuff on Friday, a dental appointment on Monday, then home for Thanksgiving back to Erie the next day, then over to Ohio for another wedding reception for the couple from Oklahoma then we have a friend staying with us until the first Tuesday of Dec and lets not forget the whole Christmas shopping deal that is coming up.  whew…  So that’s about it in a nut shell.


In terms of the dating world; Craig and I are still seeing each other intermittently for gay wrestling matches.  I’m still making attempts to take Lauren’s co-worker on a date but I can never seem to ask him or catch him when he is at work….Steve and I are now friends.  I still want to make out with him but not much else…or at least I keep telling myself that.  It’s nice to have a gay friend though.  We’ve been hanging out much more lately.  It is weird cause I feel like I like him, but I wonder if it’s just me liking having a gay friend and then some of the things he says about past ex’s makes me anxious.  So I don’t know what is going on. 


On a final note…winter has finally come to Erie.  We got something like 2 feet from Sunday into Monday…the Farmer’s Almanac says it going to be bad this winter…did I ever mention I hate the Farmer’s Almanac.


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So first off I would like to say that I’ve officially reached 26 today the 5th of November!  Yes the most important time in American politics lands right on the eve, or on the day of my birthday.  But lets be serious, the American people aren’t really celebrating the election of a new leader for our nation…they are celebrating my…ahem…birth.  To continue celebrating my birth…here is a gratuitous man picture…enjoy…it is my gift to you 😉






Now let’s get down to brass tacks my friends.  I began my blog several months ago to try and figure out what I lacked and needed to do with my life.  While I look back at my posts and recount the many fun times I’ve had I’ve also noticed that I am not really where I wanted to be by the time I turned 26.  I thought at this point in my life after being partially out of the closet I’d have significant other.  I don’t have a significant other, but I do have someone I full around with pretty consistently…even if he is much older than me.  I thought I’d have a job in my field, I don’t, but Does it count if I’ve applied???  These two notions make me kind of anxious considering I am closing in on 30.  It isn’t that I’m getting older it’s just that I’m not where I thought I’d be in life by 26.  I’m at a state of stasis right now…consistent yet happy, but I’m going to need some changes real soon.  Okay so enough of this feelings conversation…I hope you all go out and have some good old booze gay man fun to celebrate my introduction to the world!  Cheers for now.



So originally when I finished this blog the 2008 election wasn’t over now that it’s over there are a few things I would like to get off my chest.  First and for most…shame on you Florida, California, Arizona, and Arkansas…you’ve taken away peoples rights.  On what basis did you take these rights away, fear and your religion????  This breaks my heart to know that there are people out there that feel the need to marginalize others.  That is what they did plain and simple.  Secondly, I just want to say that for those of you gay men and women who want to adopt, don’t do it.  I hate to say it and it isn’t pretty to say but if people want to deny marriage then why should we help those children that languish in a state system.  I’ve talked about this before and I genuinely hate to know that children will suffer from this but why should we gays sink money into state systems that feel the need to deny us our right to marry.  I say let the systems fill with children until states realize that these kids could have wonderful loving homes but because of their moral issues they won’t get a home. 


I know it crass, mean, and down right deplorable of me to say but why is it that we have to take the moral high road.  You know what I’m saying, that voice in your head, your conscious that goes, “you know even though people have taken your right to marry away we should still adopt because there are children that need us…it’s for them.”  Screw that I’m over being Mr. Nice Gay.  I’m sick and tired about people being so scared of gay marriage.  Is it really that crazy or scary that two men and two women love each other and want the sanctity of a marriage to prove their love and devotion to each other? 



The other thing that I’m kinda over is people calling us progressive as a nation.  Yes we are progressive but I believe we are selectively progressive.  Don’t get me wrong I’m enthralled at having Obama as my President.  But if we were progressive don’t you think that gay rights would have won.  People “selected” not to progress gay rights.  We only choose to be progressive when we want to or when the time is right.  We tout being progressive but I just think we pick and choose our areas of progression based on how we feel at that time.  I mean we chose to progress in some areas of animal rights and abortion. 



On a final note I just want to say I hope Obama and Biden stay true to their word protecting what gay rights we have.  I have said from the beginning that I was a Clinton supporter, but when she did not get the nod for the presidential position I was left with Obama and McCain…obviously I would not vote for McCain so that left Obama.  The hardest thing for me to swallow about Obama was that both he and Biden stood up and said they will protect gay rights but believed that marriage was between a man and a woman.  First, I believe marriage is a right that should be given to me…and currently the states show that they don’t believe in that right, secondly, people look to Obama and Biden as not only leaders of our nation but as moral leaders too.  When these two men stood up at the debates and said they believed that marriage was between a man and a woman they told people that is okay to give certain rights to gays.  They made it okay, they made it comfortable, acceptable, for people to give certain rights to the gays while still holding them an arms length away from total equality.  Because of this I came down with the choice of either not voting for Obama or compromising the feelings I have about equality for gays for the greater good.  That’s not an easy decision to be asked or to be made.  What makes the decision even worse is that Obama is in office and that is great but will he and Biden do anything to help the gays in the state that just had their rights to adoption and marriage taken away from them, or will they just support the rights for gays to visit their loved ones in hospitals etc?  I think it is an important question we have to ask ourselves and our new President and our new Vice President.  Like I said I’m not bashing Obama and Biden.  I am just a concerned, marginalized, second class citizen who has questions and is hoping for change.


Okay now I’m over my political rant.  This should be a happy day so as a gift to me go out and get drunk and have some crazy gay fun times with the people you care about the most. 



P.S. Congrats to Obama and Biden!  Let hear it for change!



P.P.S.  I think it’s kind cool that I get to share my birthday with a significan piece of American history!!!!!




I’m making my birthday wish and it’s for some of the items below! 😉













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