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So I am back from my slight blogging hiatus. My apologizes, work has kept me so busy this past week and I’ve not had the chance to sit down and write a good blog that you would enjoy. So now is my chance to get you caught up with everything!

I last left off last Friday. I didn’t have any big plans for Friday except to have dinner then head over to a bar to see a cover band play. But, I did have a date with Cody on Saturday. At that point in time I had been on several dates with both Frank and Cody. But in the grand scheme of things I have done a little more than go on dates and kiss with Frank than Cody. I don’t know why but I had found myself connecting with Frank a little easier than with Cody; that’s not to say Cody isn’t a great guy. So Saturday evening I head out to see “Watchmen” with Cody. I’m going to stop here for a moment to discuss “Watchmen”…I’m trying to decide whether or not to put up a spoiler alert regarding my next few statements?! Here is my warning/spoiler alert…if you like surprise male nudity then skip the next paragraph.

For those of you who have seen “Watchmen” let’s take a moment and discuss the giant, blue, cgi-ed cock in the movie. Talk about surprise male nudity. I am all for more gratuitous male nudity in films…for obvious reasons but I have to say I was a bit surprised Dr. Manhattan’s (Billy Crudup) cgi, blue cock in “Watchmen, “ but I loved it! Apparently it has been nicknamed “the crowd pleaser” LOL. What I don’t understand is how the movie walked away with just an R rating. That cock seemed to be everywhere….I guess you can show your cock and still get an R rating but the minute it is “ready for lift off” an NC-17 rating is appropriate…on yet one more side note…Night Owl II’s ass is super hot too. You can see it again in “Little Children,” what can I say Patrick Wilson has a nice ass 😉

Okay okay where was I…oh yes the date.

So the movie ends and we go to visit Steve at work then we all head over to the gay bar for some fun and dancing. We had a good time but we were only there for a small amount of time due to how late the movie ran and Steve closing up work. But there was enough time for a crazy older man (not that kind I like) to stick his hands up my shirt and begin rubbing my belly. I might be easy but not that easy 😉 Fortunately, I was pulled away by Cody. That old man was creepy as hell. 

 After the bar I drove Cody back to his car…and we just hugged. I’m not attracted to him and I didn’t know how to tell him that while I enjoy hanging out with him I don’t foresee us going any further than that.

Sunday is well Sunday and I enjoyed a day to just hangout.  Monday work kept me busy all day then I ran a ton of errands…then Cody and I along with Steve and a few other guys decided to go to the gay bar. It was a good time, I did some dancing chatted with a few guys. The funny thing about being out this Monday night was that Danny (the man engaged to another man who coincidentally tried to lay claim to my ass) was out with his fiancé. He had texted me asking me if I was going out and I said yes and I promptly told him I would love to meet his fiancé. Who I was introduced to and who turned out was lovely. But this didn’t stop Danny from giving me a squeeze while dancing at the bar with everyone. And by squeeze I mean a below the waist squeeze. I didn’t dance to much more with Danny and his fiancé after that. So the night ends and I take Cody back to his car. We hug again; I’m trying to keep my boundaries. I know I’m not attracted to Cody because while I have fun hanging out with him, I’m not physically attracted to him. I know this because over the course of the past week I had several chances to bring him home with me and I didn’t act on it. I think I learned some self restraint…I think being the operative phrase.

So on Tuesday Cody texts me telling me we need to talk. I know where this is going and I eventually get a hold of him. Leading up to the phone call I wanted to be as respectful as possible (hence the no sleeping with Cody rule I imposed on myself) and when we talked he said that he enjoyed hanging out with me but he needed to know where I stood. I told him that I just wanted to be friends and he seemed pretty okay by it. I told him I’d give him a call this weekend and we could hang out.

Now Frank is a different story. Frank, I don’t know why, but I’m attracted to him and enjoy the dates and other things we do together. Coincidentally, I had not seen Frank for a week and on Tuesday we had a date at his place (he was out of town for work). We were to watch “Gosford Park” (which I love also noticed how I said were to watch). I get to his place and we chat about his trip and catch up then next thing I know we are having a naked party. Yah I said it naked party. We have our fun and then we dig into cheese cake that I had brought for us (always a consummate guest…you always bring dessert if a movie and naked party is involved LOL). Then we end up cuddling for a while falling asleep together for a bit.

 It’s amazing the different dynamic I have between Cody and Frank. I’m amazed at how Cody seems to be the kind of guy I should be dating and attracted to but I’m not and Frank is the exact opposite. I just don’t know…but I am having fun. So we will see how it goes…I don’t think it is anything serious with Frank at the moment it’s just fun and enjoyable. But it makes me questions the whole context we operate under in today’s dating world, the need to define what we are doing.

Ever since Carolus Linnaeus created the binomial nomenclature system of identification (a man who tried to describe all the species in the world) we’ve been trying to define everything we do. You can be a sophomore in college, or a 3rd generation American, you can have a Bachelor of Science in Biology or a Bachelor of Arts in Literature, you date boys with black hair and blue eyes, you aren’t dating but have a fuck buddy, you are in a long term monogamous non-sexual relationship etc. It’s exactly what Cody was looking for when we talked on Tuesday. He wanted to define what we were doing. Which I can’t blame him…I too do love to define what I am doing and with whom I’m doing it with. But after maybe 5 dates, 1 kiss, and 3 hugs with Cody we needed to define what we were doing? What is it about defining something that gives us comfort? More importantly what do you do with something that defies definition? Take for instance the Platypus; it’s the only mammal to lay eggs instead of giving birth to live young. (On a side note did you know it is also venomous…yeah I just found that out too). In fact its’ only other relatives it has are extinct and in the fossil record! What do you do with a mutation, something different, a blip that defies a set norm in today society’s idealized view of dating? That is where I’m at with Frank at the moment. Do I attempt to define what we are at this point in time or do I just let it be what it is? When researchers tried to define the platypus they found it to be the single representative in its family and genus. Are we the platypi of the dating world? Does what Frank and I do/have defy definition and does it really matter? There are tangible benefits to defining what we do. We can’t look over the good a definition does. It lets me know if I can go on other dates, it lets Frank know we are exclusively dating each other, definitions set up boundaries and boundaries can be good. Perhaps it isn’t the definition part but the boundary part that freaks me out to some extent. Perhaps I feel that the minute I define what I’m doing and my boundaries are set something or (and I say this hesitantly) someone better will come along and what I once took as good could be better with someone else. Maybe that is the beauty of a non-defined thing with Frank. We can come and go as we please. Then I read that statement I just wrote and think how utterly ridiculous it sounds. How can people, how can I, go through life easing in and out of things/relationships/dates/people without a commitment on my end. But then I think I’m young and still feeling out being gay and being in a gay community and Frank is older than me. Is there a need on my part to tie myself down so young or am I just making excuses because I’m too scared or worse to greedy to be in a relationship? And that’s not saying I should be in a relationship with Frank, for Pete’s sake we’ve only know each other for a month. I wonder what his expectations are regarding me. Is there a reason he hasn’t said anything about the age difference and trying to define what we are? Or is he okay with what we do and just leaving it at that? Or perhaps he wants this to be fun and easy (not easy in that manner ;)) and not have to deal with the tangible pros and cons that come with a definition. Maybe Frank likes my company and what we do and that’s it. I don’t know at the moment if I can answer any of this.



What I do know is that he is coming over to my place tonight for dinner and perhaps another naked party. I also know that you are probably bored to tears over this post. So I will leave it at that. I will try and post tomorrow before the weekend. I hope you are all doing well!

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So this is my last post before the weekend….lets dish about last night.  So I got out of work a little early and went home and cleaned my entire apartment…As I had mentioned it was a mess.  Lauren and I have been living like bachelors since the first of the year and our apartment looks like it! Eep.  So after a couple of hours of cleaning and vacuuming (and making my bedroom look acceptable for any guest…it doesn’t hurt to be prepared) I hoped into the shower.  A friend stopped over that was going out with Lauren (who coincidentally vacated the apt. so that I may have some private time with Cody) then they were gone.  I grabbed a little dinner and watched a little TV.  I entertained the idea of taking a quick nap when Cody called and asked if he could come over early. We had planned an 8 pm evening but it looked like he would be over by 7:30 (no biggie as my dreams of a quick cat nap vanished).  I rushed around getting ready doing all the appropriated date things….brush my teeth; make sure we had beverages etc.  He shows up looking cute and tall.  We make small talk.  Now it is important to know that in the back of my mind I’m trying to figure out when would be a good time to tell him about me dating people etc.


I tell him he has to watch Ghost Hunters International because I am already halfway into the show before we can start the movie.  He obliges and we chat during the whole thing.  We get onto the subject of talking about ghosts and his tarot card reading when he mentions he is sensitive.  (Here is where our conversation gets really interesting).  He starts telling me he is sensitive to ghosts and spirits around him and that he sees them!  YES he can see them!!!!!  So I find myself in a very interesting spot…I am interested in what he’s talking about but I would be lying if I said I wasn’t a little bit, I don’t know freaked out is to strong of a word, hesitant or maybe awkward about the whole conversation.  So what do I do…I keep peppering him with questions.  Apparently, at the time we were together he could feel his dead Grandfather and Aunt around him.  I am trying to be as open minded as possible at this point and I keep asking questions.  It wasn’t anything I didn’t invite myself but still…this was quite the conversation.   He told me that he can see an animal spirit…not to be confused with the spirits of animals…his animal spirit just happened to be a wolf with big fangs, red eyes, and a shrill howl that lives in the woods behind his home…Now I’m a little freaked out.  I get all stereotypical and ask him questions about 6th sense and seeing people when they die…apparently they have a term for that it’s called a death form…and yes he has seen them.  It took every fiber of my being not to ask him if I had any spirits around me…I do have to admit, I would like to know but I think that would be a third date kind of questions.


So we decide to do the card reading.  I shuffle the cards and he tells me I can either ask a question in my mind or out loud. I keep the question to myself and in my head I ask, “Am I meant to be with Frank?”  Of course I would be on a date with a tarot card reader and ask a question about another love interest!  The three cards he pulls are all the same suite, the swords….he tells me it is interesting.  The swords are in decreasing numbers.  He picks up the first card and tells me that there are a lot of things around me at the moment.  All I can think is that I’ve had a ton of boys and dates recently around…it seems to fit the questions.  Then he says something that left me breathless.   He tells me that, “I shouldn’t put all my eggs in a basket.”  The reason I’m so breathless about this is because I have been using that term a lot recently.  I’ve been using the same phrase in terms of these boy and dates as of recently.  I know it seems like trivial but I found it to be quite an interesting way to phrase the card reading considering the question I had asked (which he didn’t hear me ask).  All very interesting.


So I ask another question which is just a mess the cards didn’t answer it or anything.  I chalk it up to a miss on the part of the spirit world…I’ll give them this miss they are only spirits you know.  Then I ask my final question.  In my mind I ask if my Grandfather is proud of me.  You see my Grandfather passed away 3 or 4 years ago and he was always an inspiration to me.  He was heavy into community politic, creating labor unions, and just focused on fairness and equality with people.  I’ve been thinking a lot about him recently considering one, he never knew I was gay, and two because of the political activism work I’ve been doing since the beginning of the year.  I just wanted to know if he knew how much his influence has helped shape who I was and what I was doing.  Cody takes up the first card, rubs it for a few seconds then looks me square in the eyes and say, “NO.”  I go, “what did you say?”  He says, “there is a resounding no coming from this card.”  None the less I got my answer. :/  I don’t know if I believe what he said because I don’t want to hear or believe it, or because maybe the spirit world got it wrong again or there was deeper meaning to the reading.  But I can say I was breathless once again.  I didn’t hear much after that because at that moment I had all I could take with the tarot card reading. 


As the night progressed we decided to watch “30 Days of Night” which was terrifying.  I liked it but it was scary.  Eventually, we finish the movie and Lauren comes home we banter for a bit.  She heads off to bed and Cody and I watch a little more TV.  At about midnight, I still haven’t told him about Frank and dating and time was running out quickly.  We decide it was time to end the evening.  Jesus, now I had to worry about a kiss and the dating/Frank thing.  I walk him downstairs to see him out.  Now mind you, in my head I’ve built a perfect scenario to how I am going to tell Cody how I’m seeing other people and dating, and not quite ready to settle down at the moment.  He would lean in give me a long kiss on the lips and I press him back and tell him to hold on a minute that I needed to tell him something before we went on or went too far.  Out would come the truth about dating and Frank.  He would then tell me he would wait for me and keep going out with me until he had won my affections then he would grab me again and plant another smoldering, hot kiss on my mouth, making me melt…ahem….sorry…to much information.  Anyway it started like that; he leaned forward and planted a kiss on my lips.  That would be where it derailed; here I’m expecting a lingering kiss, or at least hoping for one (for a couple reasons (the scenario and who doesn’t like a lingering kiss ;)) It was a fast kiss.  Brief not passionate a very, I hate to say it, run of the mill kiss, no tongue.  It was like two guy friends kissing and saying so long for the evening not I had a good time tonight and I wouldn’t be opposed to you asking me back upstairs and making out for a while on your mess up bed.  I was too focused on kiss performance and enjoyment when he pulled a way and said goodnight again and was heading towards his car.  Son of a bitch!  And that’s where it ended he made his way over to the car not knowing my intentions yet and we kissed! Eep.


So the date went okay, albeit different but good.  We kinda would touch legs on the couch and we had pleasant conversation.  Let’s not forget about the kiss at the end.  We are suppose to go out tomorrow night to see “Watchmen.”  Again, I hope to tell him about the dating and Frank thing and of course I’m hoping he will kiss me again.  We can’t leave out the physical or chemistry part of all things dating 😉


But, for the moment, Frank is in New York City visiting family and Cody and I don’t have plans for the evening.  What does that mean?  I’m going to happy hour in Erie.  Not just any happy hour a gay happy hour!!!!  I went to one last month and really enjoyed it.  So I’m going again this month and I’m going to see if my new found boy karma will work on all men 😉  We will see how it goes and of course I will keep you posted.


I hope you all have a spectacular weekend filled with fun, friends, flings 😉

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Hello all just wanted to let you guys know I am heading home in just a few minutes to do a cleaning overhall at my apartment.  Cody and I have decided to watch a movie tonight together.  So I need to clean my apartment cause it’s dirty…or mess….I’m not a slob it just needs to be cleaned. 

The other fun thing we are doing to night is Cody is going to ready my cards.  He is a trained in tarot card reading.  I think that’s a pretty cool date.  Movies and tarot cards…well it certainly is a different date 😉

I’ll let you all know how it goes!!!!!


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Without further ado I’ve got my weekend update regarding all the good stuff…the dates, the boys, the kisses 😉




On Friday I had my date with Cody.  We met for drinks at a local bar then we went to dinner.  Nothing fancy it was just a get to know who you were kinda date.  So we meet for drinks and I forget just how cute Cody is!  We had only seen each other once before prior to this date and it wasn’t a long night out.  Tall, black hair, a little bit of stubble on his face…he was looking mighty fine.  I come to find out he wants to go to school to be a baker.  Which is pretty good, the conversation flows on for the next hour.  There isn’t immediate sparks but the company is good and I am enjoying the date so far.  At this point I’ve not had one of those moments where the other shoe drops (usually the shoe that lets you know your date is out of his mind) and you begin to look for an escape!  We proceed to dinner.  Dinner is nice and we spend another hour just talking and eating.  All the time I am trying to figure out what to do in regards to Frank…who if you’ve just come into my dating story…made his intentions known the night before.  In terms of bills and such I bought one of his drinks at the bar and I bought the appetizer at the restaurant.  It was a halfway Dutch date.  I want to be respectful to all parties in regards to dating especially considering Frank.  So around 10:30 we finish up dinner and we decide part ways.  From out conversation I felt that we could have probably gone out to another bar or a movie something as an extension of the evening but decided not to.  One reason was that I had to be up early the next day to do laundry, secondly, I was meeting Frank for brunch; thirdly, I had to drive down to a friend and her boyfriends place for a housewarming party.  So we part ways and I make sure to just give a hug to Cody no kiss.  We decide that we will see a movie in the following week.  I’m dating and at this point in time I don’t intend on tying myself down to one man.  I head home and pass out from a long week of work and dating.




I wake up early and do my laundry.  I meet Frank out for brunch.  It is one of those brunches that is long and enjoyable.  Because Frank is a little ahem older he has a tendency to know a ton of people in Erie.  I learned this on Thursday when we went to the concert and he knew all the people playing in the concert.  We spend time greeting, talking, and for me meeting people at brunch.  After brunch I know I have to run two errands…beer for the party and a plant for my friends.  I invite Frank along for the ride so from brunch we end up at a grocery store…then it’s coffee for a bit.  We end up parting ways after the grocery store…in the parking lot he plants two kisses on me.  Since I’m still coming out it is weird to have such a public display of affection…none the less I enjoyed it.  I finish my errands and head out to the party with Lauren.  It is about an hours away and we are going to spend the night.  The party is a ton of fun we visit some of the local hot spots and then retreat back to the new apt. and spend the evening visiting, eating, boozing up, playing board games and listening to records (very retro I know but was awesome)!  Frank ends up texting me at about 3 in the morning and I badger him about the hickey he gave me…he tells me at one point that perhaps it needs to be bigger!  Forward and I totally approve of it!  We end up making plans for Sunday evening dinner and T.V.  Lauren and I leave late into Sunday afternoon.  We make it back to Erie just in time for me to shower, visit Steve at work, and then head over for dinner.  He buys (because I suspect I had bought brunch for us) and it is a lovely meal.  I was excited about seeing him.  We chat and Frank kinda defines what we are doing…he tells me he doesn’t want to scare me but he considers us dating….dating in terms of going out and enjoying each others company.  Not exclusive dating “dating” (If that makes sense) and I’m okay with it.  We eventually end up at his place to watch T.V.  We did a little more than watch T.V.  Lets just say this time it was not an above the waist, clothes on make out session…he got to see my favorite pair of low rise boxer briefs(which I had coincidentally worn for just such a situation that may arise with Frank…they are blue…I know you wanted to know)…and maybe a little more than that ;).  We part ways around 11ish and I head up to pick Steve up….it seems that he was having boy problems and needed to talk.  So we go for coffee.  I end up staying out until 3:45 in the morning.  We ended up, after coffee, running into a drunk friend who wanted to drive home, but we wouldn’t let him without food in his stomach and a little break from the booze (he was offered a place to stay but refused to stay).  Steve ends up locked out of his house and we both end up back at my place.  Only after I run a red light (what it was almost 4 in the morning) in front of a cop.  The didn’t pull me over but as god as my witness they had their spot light on my car…I suspect trying to get my license number which I don’t know if they did or didn’t get (but I will find out if a ticket is in my mail box this weekL) because I turned down a street not to evade the officers but because it was the street that I live on.  MORAL OF THE STORY…DON’T RUN RED LIGHTS AT 3:45 IN THE MORNING!




I manage to drag my exhausted, potentially ticketed, ass to work.  I work all day and head home and nap.  After my nap I grab dinner and see if Frank wants to get together.  He leaves this week to visit his Sister and I want to give him a proper send off 😉 like you wouldn’t.  We end up not getting to see each other so I plan on trying to see him on Tuesday (today).  Cody had texted me about going to the movies and we decide to do it on Saturday.  The important thing about this is letting him know I am dating at the moment and not sure where that stands with guys that I’ve gone out on dates with (mainly Frank).  I also need to talk to Frank and let him know that I am going out on a date with Cody.



That about sums up my whole whorish weekend I had!  I’m torn at the moment between Frank and Cody.  Frank is a nice, older guy that I’ve gotten physical with, and have been out on a bunch of dates with.  Cody is a more age appropriate guy who is also nice, I’ve not gotten physical with, and have only been on a few dates (who in fact as I write this post invited me to watch a couple movies together…that’s gay talk for 15 minutes of movie and an hour and 15 minutes of making out and heavy petting).  So I’m a little confused as to what I should do or if it is wrong to be going out on dates with two people, is the physical stuff with Frank just physical with some dates tossed in?  How serious is he?  How serious am I?  It is a bit of a conundrum of sorts.    You see this is what happens when it pours :/


I hope all of your weekends went well, please tell me what you did!  Also, if you have advice I’m willing to hear it!

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Okay so I know I’ve kept you in suspense for the last day regarding my date with Frank on Wednesday.  (My prediction regarding the kiss was pretty spot on.)  It went really well!  So I don’t know about anyone else but I always try to feel out how serious the date is.  I try to answer questions like are we going Dutch tonight, or is he going to pay for me, or should I pay for him?  It gives me a handle on how serious the date is…you know feel it out.  So I get to the theater first and I buy the tickets just to see what happens.  He shows up and I tell him that I got tickets for us….P.S. we saw “Fired Up”) and what does he end up doing…giving me a voucher for a ticket.  I guess we answered that question…going Dutch.  So we get into the movie and it is basically me and Frank and 3 other couples.  The movie begins it’s really funny and I learned one thing about Frank he has loud and distinct laugh…he literally LOL’s…he is the physical embodiment of LOL.  I’m sure it annoyed some people in the theater but I found it kind of charming.  As the movie progressed there was some knee to knee rubbing….just a gesture to let each other know that we are attracted to one another…then there is some finger touching and rubbing.  I’m enjoying the whole date at this point.  When the movie ends Frank offers to walk me to my car…very gentlemanly of him, and I end up giving him a ride back to his car.  We sit for a bit and decide that we are going to have brunch on Saturday together.  I am giving him my best come kiss me body language…he is kinda sitting in my car looking a little scared of me…I lean forward even more and we keep making small talk…so finally I take his arm and tell him it would be okay if he kissed me.  He says he would like that….he plants two quick, light kisses on my mouth.  There is a graze of tongue, his lips are cool, and he tastes like mint….I wasn’t expecting our kiss to be like that at all.  I’m so use to a booze fueled make out session that I forgot how nice it is for someone to just kiss you.  Frank then says he is glad we are taking it slow.  He then asks me to come with him as a guest to a concert on Thursday evening.  I accept and then we exchange goodbyes and we drive off.


I think it is fair to say he is interested in me.  Especially after I hash out the date last night 😉  So Yesterday at work Cody texts me and our just going out for drinks Friday night turns into dinner and drinks.  Our casual date suddenly takes a on a much more official date like feeling.  After work I end up at home and I get ready for the concert.  Frank picks me up and we are off.  Here the concert is of different music faculty around the Erie School District.  There aren’t many people that come to see the concert but Frank knows practically all the faculty playing.  He introduces me to all of them…there are lovely and very kind to me…but I can see it some of their faces…Frank and his friend who is 20 years younger…are they together?  Perhaps I am being to quick to judge or I’m over analyzing the whole situation but it still weighs in the back of my mind.  After the concert we grab some coffee and dessert and have a nice conversation.  My whole plan is to push the envelope a little bit.  No sex of heavy petting but a little more making out.  Frank has made it clear he wants to take it slow and I’m okay with that.  My plan is to get him to walk me to my door and make out a little bit.   After coffee he drives me home (Lauren is out drinking with friends…Score!) I invite him up and he obliges.  In fact he ends up coming in.  So I give him a tour and we end up on the couch watching the news.  We cuddle a little bit..he has his right arm slung over me and my back is on his side…he is rubbing my chest…tweeks my nipple a little bit, he kisses the back of my head (Frank is scoring points like crazy0….this is a little more than I bargained for…so I decide it is time for a little make out session.  And we start making out…the kisses are soft and hesitant at first, then they warm up.  We are giggling, he tries to tell me he wants to leave but I tell him not to…we keep kissing and I tell him I am texting Lauren to not come home…I reach for my phone but he holds me back, he playfully holds me against him, we are still laughing but I manage to get my phone and get the text out.  I quickly turn around and keep kissing him…At this point it is adequately clear that our clothes will stay on and we resist exploring below the belt with our hands.  This is purely an above the waist, clothes on, make out session….I still managed to get out of my dress shirt though LOL 😉  Suddenly I start getting texts back I know they are from Lauren…Frank reaches for the phone wanting to know what they say…I laugh cause I am straddling him and I hold my phone out where he can’t reach it…I causally mention look who’s got who now, we are laughing and he still can’t reach.  Lauren declares the apt. mine for the next hours…seconds later Lucy (who is out with Lauren) texts me back “Slut.”  I’m laughing really hard now and Frank still can’t see the text messages.   We end up making out for the next hour.  I’ll leave it up to your imagination to what we did, but there was some straddling, grinding, lots of kissing, ear nibbling…all the fun stuff…that ended with me having a hickey.  It was such a great make out session…it was hot yet playful…we didn’t do to much yet we did just enough.  One of the best parts too was that he would ask me to just hug him and I would just snuggle right into him and nuzzle his chest.  I’ve not had many guys just flat out ask me to hug them….it was great!


So now you are up to speed on my dating week.  I will see Cody this evening and we will see how that goes.  And them I have brunch plans tomorrow with Frank…I’m hoping he will ask me back to his place to cuddle for a bit before I leave this weekend for a house warming party.  We will see.  Now in terms of the whole age thing….I have thus far enjoyed my time with Frank.  I could see us going out more and I am going to sit back and enjoy our time together at the moment.  I am going to try and not think about the social ramifications of dating someone who is older than you and just enjoy it…I’m not going to try and define it quite yet.  We will see what happens. 


Tell me how you guys are doing.  What are your plans for the weekend?  Any good hook ups recently?  Have a lovely weekend everyone and I will have updates for you all on Monday 😉

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I don’t know what I have done to deserve it but my dating life has suddenly taken a turn upwards.  It must have been all the praying to the gay gods last week (Bette Midler, Celine Dion, Cher etc.) 


I ended up texting Frank last night and we decided to catch a movie together this evening.  We are going to go see “Fired Up” because what else would a gay man want to see on his first date *Sammy shakes his head*.  I’m pretty pumped and eager to see what Frank has to talk about.  It will nice to be out with him other than being in a gay bar or doing community activism.  Then also on Monday, as I had mentioned, I was receiving text messages from a young man I couldn’t place.  I text him to see who he is and it turns out I mis-programmed his name into my phone and then figured out who he is.  I was out with Steve one night and he was asked to meet the boy he has taken a liking to out at a straight bar…so we go we meet his friend and a bunch of their friends.  One of the guy’s name is Cody.  Cody is gay and we chat some he seems nice.   He’s really tall, black hair etc. eventually the whole group ends up going to eat out later that night and chat.  I end up sitting by Cody and we talk for a bit.  We exchange numbers and I’m thinking he might be nice to go out with a couple of times.  Over the next day I text him but his text messages don’t give off the “I’m interested” feel so I let it go.  It was Cody who was texting me only I had listed his name as Matt in my phone.  Yesterday I texted him to figure out who he was…the explanation came out and it ended with me and him getting drinks on Friday.  At first I didn’t necessarily consider this a date but as soon as we set the time and place I get a call minutes later from Steve asking me if I had a date.  Here it turns out (this is going to be fun when you hear this…I feel like I’m in high school waiting for my next class) Cody told his best friend who coincidentally is Steve’s crushes bother’s fiancé about a date Friday night a la me.  Other than the high school nature of the news movement, the news spread rather quickly and I guess what we are doing Friday night is considered a date.  I would be lying if I said I wasn’t pleased. 


This is what I was hoping for when I came out of the closet.  Obviously, there would be drunk nights at the bars but I want something a little more traditional.  I don’t think going on dates and talking with people is an unrealistic standard to have in the gay dating community.  But there was a while where I was thinking two men going out on dates was to much of a standard then BAM three dates in one week.  Let’s hope this luck holds out for a while longer…apparently I must have done something real good because my Karma levels are particularly high this week.  And of course I will keep you all up today on any fun that might happen while out on my date…you know me I like to keep my readers abreast in my fun 😉


So I know what you are wondering right now…What happened with Danny?  Well, I ended up texting him yesterday after his boyfriend/fiancé left.  I asked him why he wanted me to texted him after his significant other left and he replied, “to have more time to talk to you.”  So we chatted and I texted him about lunch, he texted that he “wanted me for lunch.”  Brash and then I was intrigued.  I asked him what he was doing he casually mentioned that he was “naked and getting into the shower.”  Well, you can guess how the text messages started going after that…I give you some words that happened to show up in the following texts between Danny and I….hot, wet, soapy, hard, you, things…I think you get my drift.  As our conversation continues on he asks when I get off work he wants to me.  He wants to meet to fool around but he doesn’t say in the text message.  It’s at that point I text back telling him that it wouldn’t be a good idea for us to meet.  He’s engaged and I have far too much respect for him and his boyfriend to do anything.  He concurs, saying that I am right.  So we text a little more cooling down the steamy texts between us and that ends it.  I hope I smothered any improprieties that could have happened between us when I texted Danny back about his fiancé and him and I not meeting.  It isn’t fair to his fiancé.  It’s unfortunate though he was good looking…it’s always the good looking ones that are taken. 


So that is about it for now folks.  I’m pretty excited to see what tonight is going to be like.  I will let you know all the juicy details.  I am going predict that I will get at least a kiss tonight…but I’m hoping for a little make out session with Frank…just a little one.

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