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So first off I would like to say that I’ve officially reached 26 today the 5th of November!  Yes the most important time in American politics lands right on the eve, or on the day of my birthday.  But lets be serious, the American people aren’t really celebrating the election of a new leader for our nation…they are celebrating my…ahem…birth.  To continue celebrating my birth…here is a gratuitous man picture…enjoy…it is my gift to you 😉

 

 

 

 

 

Now let’s get down to brass tacks my friends.  I began my blog several months ago to try and figure out what I lacked and needed to do with my life.  While I look back at my posts and recount the many fun times I’ve had I’ve also noticed that I am not really where I wanted to be by the time I turned 26.  I thought at this point in my life after being partially out of the closet I’d have significant other.  I don’t have a significant other, but I do have someone I full around with pretty consistently…even if he is much older than me.  I thought I’d have a job in my field, I don’t, but Does it count if I’ve applied???  These two notions make me kind of anxious considering I am closing in on 30.  It isn’t that I’m getting older it’s just that I’m not where I thought I’d be in life by 26.  I’m at a state of stasis right now…consistent yet happy, but I’m going to need some changes real soon.  Okay so enough of this feelings conversation…I hope you all go out and have some good old booze gay man fun to celebrate my introduction to the world!  Cheers for now.

 

 

So originally when I finished this blog the 2008 election wasn’t over now that it’s over there are a few things I would like to get off my chest.  First and for most…shame on you Florida, California, Arizona, and Arkansas…you’ve taken away peoples rights.  On what basis did you take these rights away, fear and your religion????  This breaks my heart to know that there are people out there that feel the need to marginalize others.  That is what they did plain and simple.  Secondly, I just want to say that for those of you gay men and women who want to adopt, don’t do it.  I hate to say it and it isn’t pretty to say but if people want to deny marriage then why should we help those children that languish in a state system.  I’ve talked about this before and I genuinely hate to know that children will suffer from this but why should we gays sink money into state systems that feel the need to deny us our right to marry.  I say let the systems fill with children until states realize that these kids could have wonderful loving homes but because of their moral issues they won’t get a home. 

 

I know it crass, mean, and down right deplorable of me to say but why is it that we have to take the moral high road.  You know what I’m saying, that voice in your head, your conscious that goes, “you know even though people have taken your right to marry away we should still adopt because there are children that need us…it’s for them.”  Screw that I’m over being Mr. Nice Gay.  I’m sick and tired about people being so scared of gay marriage.  Is it really that crazy or scary that two men and two women love each other and want the sanctity of a marriage to prove their love and devotion to each other? 

 

 

The other thing that I’m kinda over is people calling us progressive as a nation.  Yes we are progressive but I believe we are selectively progressive.  Don’t get me wrong I’m enthralled at having Obama as my President.  But if we were progressive don’t you think that gay rights would have won.  People “selected” not to progress gay rights.  We only choose to be progressive when we want to or when the time is right.  We tout being progressive but I just think we pick and choose our areas of progression based on how we feel at that time.  I mean we chose to progress in some areas of animal rights and abortion. 

 

 

On a final note I just want to say I hope Obama and Biden stay true to their word protecting what gay rights we have.  I have said from the beginning that I was a Clinton supporter, but when she did not get the nod for the presidential position I was left with Obama and McCain…obviously I would not vote for McCain so that left Obama.  The hardest thing for me to swallow about Obama was that both he and Biden stood up and said they will protect gay rights but believed that marriage was between a man and a woman.  First, I believe marriage is a right that should be given to me…and currently the states show that they don’t believe in that right, secondly, people look to Obama and Biden as not only leaders of our nation but as moral leaders too.  When these two men stood up at the debates and said they believed that marriage was between a man and a woman they told people that is okay to give certain rights to gays.  They made it okay, they made it comfortable, acceptable, for people to give certain rights to the gays while still holding them an arms length away from total equality.  Because of this I came down with the choice of either not voting for Obama or compromising the feelings I have about equality for gays for the greater good.  That’s not an easy decision to be asked or to be made.  What makes the decision even worse is that Obama is in office and that is great but will he and Biden do anything to help the gays in the state that just had their rights to adoption and marriage taken away from them, or will they just support the rights for gays to visit their loved ones in hospitals etc?  I think it is an important question we have to ask ourselves and our new President and our new Vice President.  Like I said I’m not bashing Obama and Biden.  I am just a concerned, marginalized, second class citizen who has questions and is hoping for change.

 

Okay now I’m over my political rant.  This should be a happy day so as a gift to me go out and get drunk and have some crazy gay fun times with the people you care about the most. 

 

 

P.S. Congrats to Obama and Biden!  Let hear it for change!

 

 

P.P.S.  I think it’s kind cool that I get to share my birthday with a significan piece of American history!!!!!

 

 

 

I’m making my birthday wish and it’s for some of the items below! 😉

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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I know all of you that read my blog are feeling neglected and miss my gay musings. I apologize!  My event for work is done but things are still flying by.  I am impressed with how booked my October has been.  So here are a few quick updates.

 

Last weekend was low key lots of laundry and wedding gift shopping.   I have an uber big wedding I’m attending in Oklahoma the second to last week this month.  Both myself and Lauren are going to be in the wedding.  Unfortunately, I will be unable to blog that weekL.  I also have two back to back weddings this weekend.  The nice thing is that I am just a guest.  Whew just dancing, eating, and drinking.

 

On the dating front….things are still a big old gay muddled mess.  I met Craig out for drinks on Monday…it resulted in LOTS of fooling around in his car.  It was welcomed!  I tried to let Craig know that I wasn’t really looking for anything official; I’m just looking for STF aka sexy time friends.  That may be mean but its true.  I just hope he understands.  We have emailed back and forth and talked on the phone a couple of times.  I have offered myself up to have some fun times but he doesn’t seem to respond to my advances.  I can’t figure out if he is just worried about it, or the age difference is too much (I am five years younger than his last boyfriend), or if he is looking for something more in terms of a relationship (which I’m not in the market for as of yet).  He certainly seemed interested while his hands were down my pants.  But then again, I am advocating a no strings attached fuck buddy kind of thing (excuse the swear, but I have no idea what else to call it other than “friends who occasionally see each other naked and do gay things to each other”) LOL.  I’m sure this comes with the territory.  It will be nice to have a weekend free where I don’t have to think about it…although I do hope to get a salacious text from him or something.

 

With that in mind I consider myself still on the market.  Lauren just discussed with me a coworker that she has who she believes is gay and she seems to think we would be a good fit.  I have stopped by at her work and she’s pointed him out to me.  So last night I made an emergency stop at her place of employment with Lucy in the hopes of introducing myself to him.  IT WORKED!!!!  After some minor shopping, you wouldn’t believe what you home with from a store when you specifically go there to flirt with a guy, Lucy and I stepped into line.  As we are standing there I ask him about his other job and he looks at me confused and I casually mention that Lauren who works with him has mentioned him a couple of times and that it was nice to put a face and a name together.  I introduce myself and Lucy to him he shakes my hand.  Nice firm grip…he is quiet spoken, taller than me, short almost buzzed reddish blond/brown hair, he has a beard…there is a certain dreamy quality about him.  Something happened to work out in my favor, I couldn’t find an item in the store so someone had to go and get it for me…they left me at the checkout allowing me some quality time to flirt SCORE.  Lucy and I get into an economic discussion while he checked someone out as I waited for my item.  Afterward he finished the check out he ended up commenting on our conversation that we were having between us meaning he was listening!!!  So my item comes and I check out, just before I leave I lean over and say to him “it was nice to meet you” and I think I said I hope to see him again.  I think I’m not sure but besides that he responded with something like “I’ll see you again” or something like that.  So it was a good gay flirting adventure.  We’ll see what happens.

 

So that’s the mess known as my love life at the moment.

 

Also, in the political rant realm I would like to say

 

 VOTE NO TO PROPOSITION 8!!

 

I’m over these people trying to stop gay marriage.  If you vote for it you are simply voting against the “equal protection clause of the California Constitution.”  Basically what people are saying is that every one is due equal protection except when it involves two men or women who love each other and want to be married.  People are fucking hypocrites (and I’m not sorry about that swear).

 

For those of you who do not know what Proposition 8 is let me explain.  When two men want to marry each other, in California, previously they would run into a little problem called Prop 22.  Prop 22 defined, in California, marriage as being between a man and a woman.  Just as a side note, at one point in time in California their marriage language looked like this “…defined marriage as: “a personal relation arising out of a civil context, to which consent of the parties making that contract is necessary.””  Sounds pretty gay friendly doesn’t it?  Well eventually those people who can’t handle to men loving one another (and women loving women) managed to get Prop 22 passed thus gay marriage was done for.  That was until May of 2008 when the California Supreme Court declared that Prop 22 violated the California Constitution.  To the happy gay couples of CA this meant that they could marry, and marry they have.  Now in a desperate legal turn individuals have produced Proposition 8.  This is basically the same language as Prop 22 only if it wins in the voting booths in November, Proposition 8 will change the language of the California Constitution.   This means the equal protection, guaranteed by the California Constitution, guarding will be done away with. 

 

Literally the words protecting the right for men to men and women to marry women will be erased from the law.  A RIGHT THAT WE DESEVER WILL BE TAKEN AWAY FROM US.  I DON’T KNOW HOW CLEARLY I CAN STATE THIS.  LET ME TRY AGAIN….LEGALLY PEOPLE WILL TAKE AWAY A RIGHT THAT WE WANT, DESERVE, AND CURRENTLY HAVE IN CALIFORNIA.

 

Now let me say this if you are gay and living in California and not registered to vote then shame on you.  This is important for the gay community.  I don’t care if you don’t believe in marriage or don’t want to get married.  There are a significant amount of others that do want to get married and because you didn’t register to vote you are basically apathetic.  Rights that we want are being taken away from us and you can’t even go register to vote is offensive.  Those hypocrites that want to take away our rights depend on people like you with your apathy to help rewrite state Constitutions to their liking.  It’s sickening.  Also, if you are registered to vote and vote for Proposition 8 I think all your rights should be taken away from you…do you like talk of taking away your rights.  I didn’t think so. 

 

 

 

Finally, I would like to point some things out about the VP debates from last week.  First, I love LOVE that Palin can tolerate me, lucky me (ahem dry sarcasm).  Secondly, go figure they would spend only two questions on the whole gay marriage issue, once again we gays are second fiddle to the economy and foreign policies.  Finally, I am a liberal Democrat and I would vote for Obama except Biden exemplified exactly the reason why I find it hard to vote for them.  Biden stood in the national spot light and said he would protect gay rights (notice he said rights but never said marriage) but when asked if he believed in gay marriage he said personally no, the same with Obama.  Now I know it is nice to finally have an Administration that will to some extent fight for gay rights, but publically Biden said he didn’t believe in gay marriage.  I have to be passionate about my gay rights because there are many people who will not back them.  How can I vote for someone that only goes halfway?  He will protect gay rights but he doesn’t believe in gay marriage.  Isn’t marriage a right I should have?  It’s like me saying something like, women can vote but I personally don’t think they should vote or be in the political world. 

 

I’ve voiced this to several of my friends who are upset over the fact that this issue is keeping me from voting for Obama (and may I say I would never vote for McCain).  I’ve been told it’s the best I have right now.  Well, why do I have to settle, am I not allowed to want more from my President and Vice President?  It’s like being paid lip service.  If Obama or Biden don’t believe in gay marriage personally how can I expect them to fight for it on a nation wide level if need be?  It’s not an issue that can just be swept under the rug.  How can I be sure that they would be passionate advocates as others are about gay rights and marriage?  I want a politician who believes in what they say on a political and personal level and perhaps that’s more than I can ask from someone but I truly believe it is something that should be asked of our leaders. 

 

Well that’s about it for now…I know it’s long but I had a lot to say.  Have a great weekend.  Let me know your thoughts about Prop 8 and the VP debate.

 

Here’s hoping all of you get lucky this weekend!!!!!!!

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Good morning bloggers! I hope you are doing well.  I have some fun stuff to talk about but first I want to look once more, briefly, at Palin.

 

I’m not sure what American people are thinking supporting McCain and most importantly Palin.  I am going to break this really easily.  Why in the world would anybody vote for a woman who has little to no foreign policy…especially if we are in a war in a foreign country?  Is it just me or does anyone else see the absurdity of this?  I’m telling you it is flawed reasoning, plain and simple. 

 

You know the invasion into Afghanistan and the war in Iraq has been a heated topic for the past 8 years.  It has been a long conversation across party lines and here we are 8 years later on the cusp of an election and people want to elect someone who doesn’t have any foreign policy experience.  This is despite whether you are for or against the war…this is about running a war in a correct manner.  I do not think Palin could advise adequately regarding the war.  More importantly that is just a glossing regarding foreign policy, there is so much more involved.  Think of what would happen if McCain passed away in office and Palin assumed the role of President.  America would have a young woman with little to no experience running the country.  I just don’t know what people are thinking. 

 

Okay I’m getting off my soap box.

 

So this weekend was good, busy…but good.  Friday night I was invited out to a gay bar with friends whom I’ve not come out to yet.  They were going with another gay friend so that he could spy on his ex-boyfriend.  So my reasoning is go any chance to become acclimated to a gay bar is a good chance, plus what if the friend is cute…there is always a catch.  So we meet and go to a straight bar and have some drinks we are having a good time and the boy is cute…we’ll call him Steve.  He has a wicked sense of humor and is wildly inappropriate…which a plus in my book is always.  I’m slowly getting drunk and think we are hitting it off, we are discussing LGBT issues in the election and I want to get his number.  So we exchange number and then the group goes off to the gay bar.  We dance and drink and are having an all around good time.  That’s when Steve confides in us that he has a crush on this 21 year old.  I glance at the guy.  Young, very gay…and I’m like ugh.  I’m a little disappointed and I decide to take matters into my own hands.  While at the bar I text him asking if he could keep a secret.  He’s drunk and I get a text back from him saying yes.  So I tell him that I thought he was one of the cutest guys in the bar and that I thought he was way to good for the 21 year old video gamer.  (On a side note I’m positive I have blown my gay cover with these friends and it is only a matter of time before they ask me about these texts and Steve.)  Well I don’t hear anything and I’m kinda sad…but it’s the norm.  So we get ready to leave.  We go home and imagine my surprise when I get a text from Steve.  It’s like 2 in the morning now and I’m exhausted and know I have to be up in 5 hours to work a fundraiser.  This touches off a two hour text messaging session.  Obviously, I’m drunk but not in a crazy I can’t contain myself kinda way…I wasn’t that lushy that night J.  The texts are tinged with flirty overtones and stuff.  Over the past 3 days we’ve texted each other and I am excited.  Some of the texts are flirty some are just regular texts but the problem is I can’t gauge if he’s interested in me or not. 

 

I just don’t know what to do.  I’ve invited him to join me on a couple of things (we have a mutual friend I had to pick up a birthday gift for and asking him if he wanted to go) but has kindly declined.  I am trying to play coy but I hate playing games.  If you are interested then tell me if not tell me so I can keep looking.  I just don’t know.  The other thing is when we text each other they are usually long text messaging sessions.

 

I’ll keep you posted on the wooing of Steve.  Here’s a little description.  He is shorter than me probably about 5’6”, he has dark short hair and light blue eyes.  He has a wicked sense of humor and has some of the funniest stories.  He has no facial hair and his ears are pierced (the piercing goes through this lobes from the side…it’s weird but cool).  He always seems to have some funny story or some witty comment come back with, but when we were talking about gay right he sounded well read.  I want to get the chance to talk to him about more serious things.

 

So that’s about it right now.  We’ll see how it goes.

 

I also did four loads of laundry this weekend…and it was lovely 😉

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So I have a few bones to pick with the state of Arkansas.  What in the world are they doing with this ban on adoptions for unmarried individuals?  See the link below:

 

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20080825/ap_on_re_us/gay_foster_ban

 

There are a few levels here that need to be discussed.  First, this is supposedly going to be on the ballot in November, meaning there is still a chance to overrule this proposal.  Secondly, I can understand the hesitation to allow unmarried individuals to adopt, but on the flip side doesn’t a state agency look into this sort of thing?  I believe there are requirements that have to be fulfilled if an adoption between two people should occur.  Thirdly, since Arkansas doesn’t allow for gay marriage gay men and women are, for all intensive purposes, unable to adopt.  Take this into consideration.  Let’s say we have a straight unmarried couple who wants to adopt.  The only thing that this couple has to do, other than pass state clearance for adoption, is get married.  They can literally walk down to the courthouse on a lunch break and have a Justice of the Peace marry them, whereas gay men and women can’t. 

 

As mentioned in article it was the Arkansas Family Council that brought this to fruition.

“Arkansas needs to affirm the importance of married mothers and fathers,” Family Council President Jerry Cox said. “We need to publicly affirm the gold standard of rearing children whenever we can. The state standard should be as close to that gold standard of married mom and dad homes as possible.” 

Gold standard my ass, this infuriates me because these people hide behind marriage jargon when all it really is rhetoric that says that adoption is only good for straight people because churches define marriage as being between a man and a woman.  As if marriage determines the ability for people to raise a child.

 

But, I think the most important aspect of this whole thing is the children that are involved.  It kills me to think that there are people out there, like Jerry Cox, that would rather a child stay in a state system than let gay couples adopt him or her.  That is what it really comes down to.  Their moral standard doesn’t help the children that are waiting to be adopted…in fact I will even go as far as to say that their (Arkansas Family Council) moral righteousness is keeping children in the state system.  What is good about that?  What is good about denying a child a good home because the couple just happens to be gay?  The mean, cynical gay part of me says screw them and their proposal let them do what they want; I’m fed up with dimwitted idiots like Jerry Cox trying to be a straight martyr.  Then I think of those kids in the system who deserve a good home and I know that we have to stop blatant discrimination like this.  This is messed up.

 

On the upside though Arkansas’s Families First is campaigning against the measure!  “”We’re going to work very hard to defeat this because it is just bad policy for children,” Willhite said.  Debbie Willhite is a consultant for Families First.

 

 

I do have one more tiny little rant to cover.  Madonna during her Sticky and Sweet tour made a tiny reference to McCain…a reference that compared him to Robert Mugabe….and Hitler. 

 

See the link below:

 

http://www.mtv.com/news/articles/1593432/20080825/madonna.jhtml 

 

Now let me reiterate that in a past post I bashed McCain’s camp for making ludicrous comparisons between Brittney Spears, Parish Hilton, and Obama.  I have to say that Madonna’s comparison is absurd as well.  Don’t get me wrong the liberal part of me is cheering for her!  And, I also have to suspect that this piece political “discourse” didn’t hurt her in ticket sales either if you get what I’m saying.  Political uproar is always edgy, controversial…and a great money maker.

 

And rightly so McCain’s camp has done damage control denounced the negatively charged comments saying, “”The comparisons are outrageous, unacceptable and crudely divisive all at the same time,” said Tucker Bounds, A McCain campaign spokesman.  “It clearly shows that when it comes to supporting Barack Obama, his fellow worldwide celebrities refuse to consider any smear or attack off limits.”

 

You know what I have to say about that:

 

HYPOCRITES

 

The whole McCain camp is full of hypocrites.  So it is okay for McCain’s camp to put out a PAID (yes paid as in campaign funds donated by McCain supporters used to shoot a video) video comparing Obama to Spears and Hilton.  Then when a private citizen chooses to make a big statement in the same manner against McCain, the camp is shocked and sickened by it.  How could McCain’s people not see this one coming?  I think the best part of this whole thing is that McCain paid to have his video against Obama done and Madonna just hauled off and put it into her tour for no money.

 

No I lied I think the best part of the whole debacle is that Obama’s camp came out and denounced Madonna’s political jabs while still sticking to McCain supporters.  Tommy Vetor, a spokesperson for Obama’s camp, also spoke out about Madonna’s controversial move. “These comparisons are outrageous and offensive and have no place in the political process,” he said in a statement to CNN. “We hope that John McCain will offer a similar condemnation as his allies increasingly practice sleazy swift-boat politics.”

Booyah!!!!!!

I just want you to remember that it was McCain’s camp that opened Pandora’s Box here, and that they paid for a celebutack (see below).  Where as Obama is playing with clean political campaigning.

(celebutack- c-leb-you-tac- n. meaning the use of one’s celebrity, whether it be of paid or personal use, to attack ones opponent.)

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So I wasn’t going to do a post today cause of the massive blog I wrote yesterday…then I saw this (see link below) and decided the gay political analyst should investigate. 

 

http://www.cnn.com/2008/POLITICS/07/30/mccain.ad/

 

So the McCain camp has released this new ad comparing Obama to Britney Spears and Paris Hilton, questioning his ability to lead a nation.  Now I’m definitely not voting for McCain and I am still deciding on whether or not I’ll vote for Obama (I have the right not to vote for a president if I don’t like the candidates…) but really this ad McCain’s camp has put out is seriously flawed.  First, here is the ad from youtube.

 

 

 

There are a couple of things that I would like to point out….especially for those of you reading this that think this is a great ad.  When one makes a comparison, to truly drive your point home, one should really compare like things.  Britney Spears and Paris Hilton compared to Sen. Obama?  That’s like comparing gummi bears to popcorn.  While Obama, Spears, and Hilton all share a certain amount of fame/celebrity they are not even in the same arena.  Gummi bears and popcorn are both snacks served at a movie theater…so they’re alike right?  Wrong….gummi bears are made of glucose syrup, starch, and sugar while popcorn comes from a dried kernel from the Zea mays averta strain of corn.  (Wikipedia helped me with that one J)  So there are differences, are you seeing my point.

 

Britney Spears and Paris Hilton flash their lady stations while getting out of cars, put out music, are daily fodder for celebrity blogs (ahem Perezhilton p.s. if you read this I love your blog), and sleep with a variety of less then moral men.  Obama puts out laws, doesn’t sleep with men (that’s suppose to be funny), I’m pretty sure he has never put out a pop song for radio play etc. 

 

Of course I wouldn’t trust Britney or Paris to run my country, but that’s because they are not comparable to Obama in any shape or form.  Now if we were looking for comparisons perhaps Obama should be gauged beside the Clinton’s, or one of the Bush’s…he should at least be compared to someone that has been to our Nation’s Capitol and understands how a bicameral system works.

 

But, perhaps I’m being to hasty, maybe I should allow for a comparison of celebrity’s to Obama.  I mean shouldn’t we look at both sides of the dime….if McCain’s camp can compare Obama to Spears and Hilton, couldn’t I compare him to Angelina Jolie, Bono, or Bill Gates.  I suspect those three understand the bicameral system of our government. 

 

You see it’s only a one sided game McCain’s team is playing.  It is easy to make a flimsy, slanted, one-sided comparison to scare the general public (like I said I would move to Canada if Spears or Hilton campaigned for president).  More importantly if we take a step back and look at the poor assessment McCain’s team is doing judging Obama against these two blonde celebutants…McCain’s team loses the real selling point of the ad and that’s the higher gas prices and higher taxes (or else known via the ad spot “the real Obama”).

 

In my mind if McCain’s camp tries to draw me in (aka the voting public) with a half-assed comparison of Obama to Britney “I shaved my hair off” Spears and Paris “I probably shouldn’t have made that tape” Hilton and I know it’s a flawed comparison then I have to, at least suspect, that his reasoning is flawed in regards to his assessment of Obama’s “policies” on off shore drilling and higher tax prices.

 

If the first part of the ad is flawed how can I not think the second part of the ad is flawed as well?  The worst part is at the end McCain approved the ad…so that makes me think McCain subscribes to this type of flawed thinking this ad exudes. 

 

In all actuality I think McCain is just upset because Obama is more famous than him…I’m just saying…or perhaps he’s a little scared of what November has in store for the Republican Party.

 

One final thought…..WHAT A DUMB AD.  Really we have a man that is running for President that spent probably entirely too much money for this ridiculous ad.  In my opinion a presidential candidate that agrees to this type of campaigning is not one that should be on the ballot in November.  This add was fluff and nothing else; it is dirty politics that makes a joke of our political processes and McCain’s Camp should be ashamed that they are behind it.  Political campaigning should be about informing the masses not scaring them with the allusion that Britney Spears or Paris Hilton is remotely a good leader or role model.

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