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Hello bloggers and Happy New Year!  I’m back after what seems like a millennia away from the blogosphere.  I was beginning to get the withdraw shakes from no contact with my blog.  I’ve just got back from my jet setting holiday bonanza and I’m pretty exhausted.  As a little break down I spent four days with my parents and sister for Christmas then headed down to DC to spend New Years with some Alumni friends! 


Christmas was wonderful as usual.  I am always beside myself when my parents host Christmas Eve at our home.  There were a total of 12 people who came over for Christmas Eve and my parents go out of their way to make it a great gathering.  I have to say I am truly lucky to have them as parents they are wonderful people!  The only downside of being home for Christmas is one along with the great Christmas Eve my parents put on they also work themselves to the bone and are usually exhausted, secondly I was only home for 4/5 days before heading off to DC.  It’s one of the first holidays where I felt like a visitor in my own home.  I like to spend time with my parents especially at the holidays and it doesn’t seem fair to them or myself to be in for a visit. 


As for my New Years visit to DC, it was great.  I had a ton of fun visited a bunch of museums (my nerd card was just played) and visited a ton of my friends.  New Years itself was as always…I don’t know…a struggle…I guess would be the best way to put it.  I despise New Years; it’s like Valentine’s Day older much meaner brother.  It is a incognito couple holiday.  I know\ “they “(whoever they is or are) say New Years is about celebrating the beginning of the New Year, what “they” don’t mention is that it’s proper etiquette to celebrate it with someone that you will probably end up sleeping with in the New Year.  Yes I spent it with a ton of good people, eating good food, and drinking fun spirits, but I always have this nagging feeling of missing something.  I can’t rectify it.  I can’t help but feel that I should be spending New Years with someone I am in a relationship with or something along those lines.  I’ve never really had a good New Year’s kiss and I (ALERT: SAP MOMENT COMING UP) want to spend a New Years with someone really special, (not that the people I did spend New Years with weren’t special).


Also along those lines my New Years never seems to fail to have some form of drama culminate during its celebration.  Last year was the girl that I had pined for in college finally wanting to sleep with me(this was also the year I came out of the closet (perfect timing) or this year Lauren called me in tears over a boy (whom is an asshole, lets leave it at that for now).  There is always something that looms with New Years…something evil and malicious!


Okay now that I am off my obligatory update I want to talk to you about my curse…my burden to bare…it is known as the Wallet Curse!  I carry a wallet, plain and simple.  It is usually large and over stuffed a  la George Castanza and I use if for a long time.  I don’t go though them quickly.  With that being said it never fails that my parents always get me a wallet for Christmas.  Brown ones, black ones, ones with the stitching showing etc.  I keep them in a box on my desk and they just multiply.  Early on this year my Mother asked me what I wanted for Christmas and I told her specifically…no wallet.  I got a wallet…again.  All I can think is that poor wallet is never going to be used cause there are ton in front of it waiting patiently to be pressed against my ass.  The good thing about receiving a wallet for Christmas is my parents have always told us when giving a wallet as a gift you put something in it.  Whether it be a gift card, money, or something else.  This year it was an extension on my Triple A care (which I did need).  So I guess the curse has its pros and cons.


So I have a couple more posts regarding my absent that I’m going to put up hopefully today!  It’s good to be back and I miss you bitches!


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So I have a few bones to pick with the state of Arkansas.  What in the world are they doing with this ban on adoptions for unmarried individuals?  See the link below:




There are a few levels here that need to be discussed.  First, this is supposedly going to be on the ballot in November, meaning there is still a chance to overrule this proposal.  Secondly, I can understand the hesitation to allow unmarried individuals to adopt, but on the flip side doesn’t a state agency look into this sort of thing?  I believe there are requirements that have to be fulfilled if an adoption between two people should occur.  Thirdly, since Arkansas doesn’t allow for gay marriage gay men and women are, for all intensive purposes, unable to adopt.  Take this into consideration.  Let’s say we have a straight unmarried couple who wants to adopt.  The only thing that this couple has to do, other than pass state clearance for adoption, is get married.  They can literally walk down to the courthouse on a lunch break and have a Justice of the Peace marry them, whereas gay men and women can’t. 


As mentioned in article it was the Arkansas Family Council that brought this to fruition.

“Arkansas needs to affirm the importance of married mothers and fathers,” Family Council President Jerry Cox said. “We need to publicly affirm the gold standard of rearing children whenever we can. The state standard should be as close to that gold standard of married mom and dad homes as possible.” 

Gold standard my ass, this infuriates me because these people hide behind marriage jargon when all it really is rhetoric that says that adoption is only good for straight people because churches define marriage as being between a man and a woman.  As if marriage determines the ability for people to raise a child.


But, I think the most important aspect of this whole thing is the children that are involved.  It kills me to think that there are people out there, like Jerry Cox, that would rather a child stay in a state system than let gay couples adopt him or her.  That is what it really comes down to.  Their moral standard doesn’t help the children that are waiting to be adopted…in fact I will even go as far as to say that their (Arkansas Family Council) moral righteousness is keeping children in the state system.  What is good about that?  What is good about denying a child a good home because the couple just happens to be gay?  The mean, cynical gay part of me says screw them and their proposal let them do what they want; I’m fed up with dimwitted idiots like Jerry Cox trying to be a straight martyr.  Then I think of those kids in the system who deserve a good home and I know that we have to stop blatant discrimination like this.  This is messed up.


On the upside though Arkansas’s Families First is campaigning against the measure!  “”We’re going to work very hard to defeat this because it is just bad policy for children,” Willhite said.  Debbie Willhite is a consultant for Families First.



I do have one more tiny little rant to cover.  Madonna during her Sticky and Sweet tour made a tiny reference to McCain…a reference that compared him to Robert Mugabe….and Hitler. 


See the link below:




Now let me reiterate that in a past post I bashed McCain’s camp for making ludicrous comparisons between Brittney Spears, Parish Hilton, and Obama.  I have to say that Madonna’s comparison is absurd as well.  Don’t get me wrong the liberal part of me is cheering for her!  And, I also have to suspect that this piece political “discourse” didn’t hurt her in ticket sales either if you get what I’m saying.  Political uproar is always edgy, controversial…and a great money maker.


And rightly so McCain’s camp has done damage control denounced the negatively charged comments saying, “”The comparisons are outrageous, unacceptable and crudely divisive all at the same time,” said Tucker Bounds, A McCain campaign spokesman.  “It clearly shows that when it comes to supporting Barack Obama, his fellow worldwide celebrities refuse to consider any smear or attack off limits.”


You know what I have to say about that:




The whole McCain camp is full of hypocrites.  So it is okay for McCain’s camp to put out a PAID (yes paid as in campaign funds donated by McCain supporters used to shoot a video) video comparing Obama to Spears and Hilton.  Then when a private citizen chooses to make a big statement in the same manner against McCain, the camp is shocked and sickened by it.  How could McCain’s people not see this one coming?  I think the best part of this whole thing is that McCain paid to have his video against Obama done and Madonna just hauled off and put it into her tour for no money.


No I lied I think the best part of the whole debacle is that Obama’s camp came out and denounced Madonna’s political jabs while still sticking to McCain supporters.  Tommy Vetor, a spokesperson for Obama’s camp, also spoke out about Madonna’s controversial move. “These comparisons are outrageous and offensive and have no place in the political process,” he said in a statement to CNN. “We hope that John McCain will offer a similar condemnation as his allies increasingly practice sleazy swift-boat politics.”


I just want you to remember that it was McCain’s camp that opened Pandora’s Box here, and that they paid for a celebutack (see below).  Where as Obama is playing with clean political campaigning.

(celebutack- c-leb-you-tac- n. meaning the use of one’s celebrity, whether it be of paid or personal use, to attack ones opponent.)

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Hello all I’m back from my vacation and ready to do some quality blogging!  I’m a little battered and bruised (I’ll be explaining this later) but rested and happy after the past week.  Below is a recap of my week; I hope you enjoy it!


Wednesday:  I had a half day of work so I got home finished packing and picked Lauren up at work to  head up to her parent’s cottage.  While visiting her place of work she, a coworker, and myself were unwittingly attacked (or scared senselessly by a bat that we thought was dead) As a side note, Erie just recently had a rabies case involving a bat.  It was lying on the floor with its wings spread and it looked dead.  So, from a few feet distance, I blew on it…I’m not sure why, but I did, I think it was to see if it was in fact dead…well as it turned out it wasn’t dead.  I learned a few things at that moment 1. Bats do not like to be blown on. 2. Bats take flight very quickly when blown on 3.  Lauren and her guy co-worker scream like little girls and left me 4.  I scream like a little girl and run wildly about when an unhappy bat takes flight.  The bat eventually resumed its laying position, but it watched me as I ran past it to rejoin my group….he was probably planning his next attack I’m sure of it.  Soon we were on the road and at the cabin.  I met practically all of Lauren’s extended family on her mother’s side of the family.  I’m sure they all assumed I was gay, which is weird for me because being gay has always been such a fiercely personal subject for me.  Especially since my immediate family barely talks about it.  One of Lauren’s Aunts, who was drunk on a bottle of wine, asked her if I was gay, and a drunk Lauren in response said as him yourself…and all I could muster was BINGO.  Yes that was my response…BINGO!  I know I know I’m a mess.  So the day ended with ample food and fun and me passing out on a very comfortable couch.


Thursday:  I woke up late and was Lauren’s moms bitch for the day.  No I am not insulting her Mom she declared me her bitch because I was trying hard to help her with whatever I could.  I mean they did let me stay for almost a week with them so I did what was asked of me.  This included shucking corn, raking part of the beach, putting out beach chairs.  Her Mom helped to so it was the least I could do to thank then for letting me stay plus it was funny.  That day one of Lauren’s sisters had a bunch of her young high school friends stay at the cottage.  We are looking at about dozen 15-16 year olds.  So that was a mess.  I laid out on the beach, looked for beach glass etc.  But, one of the best things I got to do was go tubing.  I had never gone before and it was a blast.  For those of you who don’t know what tubing is, it’s when a speedboat of sorts has an inner tube attached to the back of it and goes at high speeds slinging the tube about as you hang on for dear life.  It was awesome!  I think there is a pic or two out there perhaps when I find them I’ll put them up for you to see.  We eventually had dinner and Lucy came to stay at the cottage too!  A huge storm rolled in from Lake Erie and we watched lightning flash over the lake which was pretty cool too…then the storm came towards us.  We all ended up staying inside the cottage that night.  There were like 20 people sleeping in the cottage.  I snagged an air mattress and stayed with Lauren, Lauren’s middle sister, their cousin, and Lucy in their room.  One of the perks of being a gay roommate is staying in the girl’s room hahahahahahahaha


Friday:  I got up late did some work and laid out on the beach for most of the day.  I met the rest of Lauren’s extended family from her Father’s side that day too! We went tubing again this time the driver of the boat had passive aggressive tendencies with the throttle of the boat resulting in me, Lauren, and Lucy being pretty banged up.  I have two nice dark purple bruises working their way to the surface of my right leg.  Lucy had it worse though.  We had dinner and drank…eventually passing out on the couch that I had slept in a couple nights prior.


Saturday:  This was the last day at the cottage so I helped move stuff to Lauren’s parent’s cars and helped pack the cottage up.  I headed home early because my parents were coming for the weekend, I also helped move a friend into her apartment.  My best friend and her fiancé also came up on Saturday as well.  Her fiancé, my sister, and one of her friends were running a race in Erie.  So that night my parents had a big pasta party.  It was hella busy that day.


Sunday:  I was up early to make breakfast and get ready for the race.  My sister works at an Inn and they owners said we could hang out on the porch and watch the runners go by because the course was on the street where the inn was located.  This was great because we got to see all the runners go by.  Now let’s take a moment and discuss this awkward situation.  I was going to get coffee with my best friend and my sister’s best friend (who also came up to Erie) when I run into an old college hook up at like 7:30 in the morning.  We had a rough falling out so I always try to avoid him at all costs when I see him out… that’s the nice way of saying we were both assholes to one another….at least what I can remember…I was drunk…but I digress.  So I make quick eye contact and murmur a hello and try and figure out how to morph into a parking bench, aaahh always awkward.  Eventually, we have lunch get ice cream and I see everyone off.  This would be when I have to go meet Lauren’s parents out.  They came to Erie that day too.  So we visit and go out for dinner.  By this time I am so sick of food it isn’t even funny.  It was like I was training for an extreme food eating contest…..ugh.  After dinner they part ways.  Lauren goes off to meet a guy that she mauled kissed a few drunken nights from before.  I end up heading over to Presque Isle to watch fireworks with my sister and a few friends.  It was great way to end the week.  That night I am pretty sure part of me died from exhaustion in my bed.  But overall it was a great week.


As it turns out this week is going to be just as busy and I’ve decided that I am staying in on Saturday night.  Lauren is going to a wedding so I am buying a six pack of beer and cleaning my room, or watching tv and passing out.  I haven’t quite decided yet.   Any thoughts?  How was your weekend?

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Let’s take moment and discuss our George Bush.  In a recent article he is quoted as saying that, “I think the system basically is sound, I truly do,” in regards to our current financial systems.  I’ve come to the conclusion that our President is truly out of touch with middle class, blue collar workers.  When did $4 gas, a dismal home market, high food prices etc. constitute a sound financial system?  I whole heartily believe Bush has lost touch with the people he represents of America.  That’s the sad thing about this span of presidency is that we have been represented poorly.  How could/can we put our trust behind a man that cannot understand the workers of America?  I look at my parents whom are, like myself, middle class and work hard and are represented by a lunatic in office.  While Bush lives in his fantasy world of a “basically sound system” my Father works overtime every chance he gets.  I’m not saying we are not secure in incomes, but I’m saying my parents work their hearts out in an attempt to make a life for themselves and it isn’t easy because of our economic and financial systems, and Bush thinks things are on the up and up.  It just goes to show the disconnect he has with Middle America.


What’s worse is that the next president will have a mess to contend with which will, in all intensive purposes, smear their first years in office.  They new President and his Cabinet will have to clean up another’s mess left behind and one can see this already beginning.  For example, Bush has recently pressured Congress, which is headed by the Democratic Party, to lift the ban on offshore drilling.  Congress and the Democratic Party are in a tight spot for several reasons.  One, if they do lift the ban they will only be giving a short term resolution for a long term problem regarding oil costs, much like the stimulus checks.  One cannot fix a problem by taking the easy route out.  Every time we have an oil crisis we cannot just go drilling willy nilly to get beyond the tight spot, we have to nip the problem in the bud and figure out more efficient ways to power America.  Two, if they don’t lift the ban, which I think is the solution, they will be smeared because they will be the ones that are blamed for the high gas and oil prices.  It, to me, seems like an unfair tactic being used by Bush to place blame on other entities for the turmoil in the markets that have been caused by his Presidency and a Congress that was led by the Republican Majority.  Ultimately, it is going to make Congress look bad.




























Here is the link to the article I read:





I despise having put a picture of Bush on my blog….

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Hello all! I am back from my extended 4 day weekend and ready to blog.  So from my previous post I let you guys know that I went to a friends wedding.  I took an extra two days off from work to see some relatives and take my time traveling to York.  Who likes a 7 hour car ride…especially if you’re the driver…and you’re all alone. 


So the first leg of my trip was a stop in Somerset to stay with my Aunt for two nights.  It was a great decision.  I got there late Thursday evening and my Aunt and I talked for hours over lasagna.  Let me paint a picture of my Aunt…she is my Father’s sister and very much in touch with her Italian side.  She cooks and is happy (typical Italian mantra).  To give you a better idea of what she’s like, she’s like Doris Robert’s character in the movie Grandma’s Boy…if you haven’t seen it and you like comedies I highly recommend it.  In the style of Robert’s Character, Grandma Lilly, I was fed like a king, did some housework for her, she has cats (albeit live cats), and we even discussed the Antique Road Show.  That Friday my Father came up to my surprise, he occasionally spends weekends with his sister and I got to give him his Father’s Day gift and then on Saturday, my Uncle (my Father’s brother) also came up.  So it was nice to see a portion of my family.  I headed out early on Saturday to get to the wedding fully intending on a night of fun, drinking, good food, good friends, and perhaps some man on man action.  I get to the hotel in York with no problems and find my Urban Family.  We all stayed in the same suite together (all seven of us).  The wedding was beautiful, but, unbeknownst to me, it was outside and hot.  The reception was loads of fun and I managed to work up a great buzz.  I was just drunk enough to get on the dance floor and not make a fool of myself.  Mean while, in the man on man action area, the bride’s older brother was a sight for soar eyes.  Tall, lean, broad shouldered, with a brown beard and big hands……deliciousness all around…but I wasn’t sure if he was married or not, and I am pretty sure I am not a home wrecker, and considering it was the brides brother….I chose not to pursue him….He did actually give me a slap on the ass on the dance floor though, all I could think was, “if you ask nicely, I would definitely let you do more than just slap my ass.”  But, I digress…the wedding ended and sleep was had by all.  The next day the Urban Family and I had a big brunch and we set off to our particular places of residency around the country.  I began my journey back for another night at my Aunts.  I get to my Aunts and we had a blast we just hung out and watched a couple of movies together….it was heaven.  Then on Monday morning I began my journey back to my homoterritory of Erie PA.   I did manage to flambé my arm on the way home…now my left arm and leg are a full shade of tan darker than on my right side….it hurt.


So that was a run down of the past four days of my life.  I am currently getting ready for another wedding this Saturday which I am also excited for.  I am a date for one of my Urban Family members.  It will be a fast weekend but fun none the less.


On a final note, I just found out that I didn’t get a job I had applied for down in DC.  This was before I decided to start blogging.  I was very excited for it.  All dreams, of moving to the big city, working in what could be considered partly my field, while keep hot gay DCians at bay, that were dancing in my head were conveniently shattered today when I found out I didn’t get the job.  What irked me the most was the fact that I had to effing call the office and ask if I had got the job.  Talk about adding insult to injury.  I was informed that I would be contacted to let me know if I got the job after I completed the interview.  I suspect that if they can contact all the people who got the job or even a second interview they could contact those of us who didn’t get the job…right.  Am I being neurotic or does it seem like to much to ask for a letter saying I didn’t get the job?  You know, college students are always told they don’t know how to interview, they don’t dress correctly for interviews, or there is something that they don’t do right when it comes to job searches, and all I can think is perhaps the jobs and business we apply to need some etiquette lessons as well.  When I was informed I had the interview I had exactly five days to prepare myself, get to DC (which easily cost me like $250 buck) then wait for almost 2 and a half months to hear whether or not I got the job.  I busted my ass to oblige them for this opportunity and you would think that a simple letter or even an email (which is pushing it in my book) would suffice as to let me know where I stood in regards to the job instead of letting me languish in job purgatory.


Uuuuggghhh now I am irritated and still horny, not a good combo I might add.  I guess it could be worse….meh

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