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Alright folks I’m stopping in for a quick post.  I hope you are doing well.  Things are moving pretty quickly recently.  Work is pick up in pace and the summer is slowly waning away.  It has been one heck of a summer filled with tons of rain and peppered with hot humid days.  Not the summer day’s I’m particularly use to in Erie but I guess it could be a ton worse…it could already be snowing (gulp).

I had been tossing around several ideas on a fun way to update you with the things that have happened over the past couple of weeks and felt that a top 10 list, a la David Letterman.  So here we go

 

10)  Spent a glorious week at Lauren’s family’s cottage.  It was filled with several days of nice weather (punctuated with rain of course), fun, family, and one of the hottest neighbor Dads ever.  There was a large family staying in the cottage next to us and boy oh boy the Dad was some greatl eye candy.

9)  Recently ran a 10K with my Sister while my parents were in town.  It was a really nice visit and nice to have my parents as spectators…even though it was hotter than Hades during the run.

8)  Frank and I parted ways after 6 months of dating.  It was more so on my part then his.  I just didn’t feel like it was working anymore.  The initial attraction had fizzled and it was time to move on.  So I’m back on the market.

7)  Since being back on the market I’ve been hitting the gay bars in Erie more frequently.  It is nice to get out and have some fun…What wasn’t fun was the older gentlemen who (intentionally) grazed my naughty bits while I was trying to exit the bar last night.  We bumped into one another and apparently, unbeknownst to me, that was an invite for him to peruse the goods briefly.  Before I could say anything, the drive by grazing was over and the man slipped away into the crowd.  Gentlemen seek permission before grazing the bits it is only proper gay bar etiquette…or at least buy me a drink or two first (j/k).

6)  Being out at the bars recently led to a fun/private swim party.  That is all you will be privy to ;).

5)  I’ve purchased another Bruce Springsteen ticket.  The concert is on Nov. 10th in Cleveland.  I thought it was the only proper way to celebrate my birthday.  I am considering buying one for the Buffalo show (coincidentally his last show of his tour).

4)  Next weekend is my last wedding of the summer.  I’m a groomsman in my cousins wedding.  I’m super excited because it is a family wedding so I get to see all of my Dad’s brothers and sisters and a ton of my extended family.

3)  I’m finishing up a four month reading contest this week with Lauren.  We decided at the beginning of May to read until the 31st of August and see who can win bragging rights for the most amount of pages read.  I think that my next reading challenge is reading a bunch of books that are subsequently turned into movies.  Ex.  “One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest,”  “Cat on a Hot Tin Roof,” “A Streetcar Named Desire,” “The Secret Life of Bees,” “The Hours,” “Lovely Bones,” “The Time Travelers Wife,” “Peter Pan,” “Alice in Wonderland, “ etc.  I’m looking for other suggestions from you!

2)  I was summoned for jury duty.  Which secretly I’m super excited about!

1)  I’ve missed blogging with all of you!

Well that is it for the time being!  Wish me luck for the weekend and have a lovely rest of the day.

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So I just wanted to do a real quick update.  My training for the half marathon has been going well.  My longs over the past two weeks have become longer and longer culminating in a 10 mile run last Sunday.  This Sunday is the big event.  My legs have been a little sore recently and, while I’ve never had them before, shin splints have become more apparent recently.  My goals are to run the entire 13.1 miles and keep my time below 3 hours.  I have been running a 12/12:30 minute mile and if I can keep the pace my time should be about 2 hours and 45 minutes barring any falls or intense pains that my slow my pace.

I’m nervous about the whole run.  I think I’ve just reached a point where I’m ready to just do it.  A couple things I’m nervous about is having really bad shin splint pains, running those last 3 miles.  I know I can run ten miles but when I run on Sunday I will not know if I can run 13 miles.  While the training schedule I have elicited this idea of not running the full 13 miles before race day it still leaves those last three miles as not only a physical challenge but also a mental challenge.  I’m also nervous about the run being in the morning.  The race starts at 7:30 a.m.  Now the worry about this is that I’m usually a 6 p.m. type runner.  I’ve found that when I run in the morning it takes me longer to set my pace and I’m usually achier compared to my evening run. 

Well, I guess I won’t know until Sunday how everything goes! 

The one good thing about Sunday is that Frank won’t be there.  It is one less thing for me to worry about.  It’s a weird statement yes but I think it’s because  my parents and a variety of mixed company will be there to see me, and my Sister, run and some people know I’m gay, some  don’t, and while I’ve told my parents years ago that I’m of the gay persuasion we’ve never really talked about it since then.  How awkward would it be if the older gentleman I’m dating would end up running into my parents? GULP.  It is one thing I don’t have to worry about because Frank is in Vermont at a conference which is one less thing I have fret about on top of running 13.1 miles. 

My 4th of July was lovely.  I had a wedding to attend with a ton of college alumni and it was just a wonderful weekend in general.  We had a bunch of out of town friends staying with us over the weekend and it was great seeing them all and catching up with them. 

Things since then have slowed down nicely which I’m appreciative of!  June was awfully hectic and it is hard to see your summer fly by.  Granted I had a ton of fun these past weeks, it is hard on the schedule and the pocketbook.  But can you really put a price on memories!?

One of the nice things now is that after the busy summer I’ve already had and the upcoming half marathon is that next week I’m on vacation all week.  Lauren’s parents rented their cottage again and asked me to stay with them for the week!  Sweet, sweet vacation I’m totally excited for it.  It is a nice midsummer reward.  Now if I can just make it through Sunday without dying I’ll be gold. 

 

So as a warning I will be gone all next week and unable to update or even check my blog L  But have no fears I’ll be back on Monday to give you all the gory details of the half marathon and vacation.  I’m going to miss you all!!!!!!!!!  Make sure you have some naughty fun on my behalf 😉

 

As a little extra here is a song by the Noisettes called “Never Forget You.”  A friend sent me the song and I’ve fallen in love with it and the band!

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So I have a small confession to make.  I’ve been keeping a bit of a secrete from blog friends, as well a bunch of my friends in Erie.  Along with the weddings the busy weekends and such I have also been training for a half marathon.

Yes, I’ve been training for the past month and a half and the race is on July 19th.  I just registered today for it (I had to make sure I was going to get my “free” t-shirt).  It has been eating up a decent amount of time.  I run 4 days a week and cross train on two giving me one free day on Mondays (the only day I get to do my laundry).  Frankly, I’m exhausted.  I think that is one of the reasons I’ve been less then attentive to my blog recently.  It is also the reason I’ve been less then attentive to my friends as well.  It has taken up a bit of time and it is causing some degree of problems between Frank and me.  We’ve been dating just shy of 5 months and I haven’t been giving him as much attention as I guess I should be.  Granted I told him that I wasn’t ready for anything other than dating one another and that the status of boyfriends should be left alone because of my hectic summer.  Needless to say I only get to see him only once a week.  It seems as though my weeks have become much more regimented lately.

My junior year in college was much like it is this summer in terms of schedules.  During that junior year I took one of the heaviest course loads of my college career.  It also included over 300 hours of lab work in a 10 week period. It was intense and because of the added lab work I found myself never being able to have down time.  Every spare moment in the day I had I was either doing something in terms of apartment up keep or working on homework for other classes to make sure I didn’t fall behind.  It worked out well, but I remember by the time Thanksgiving rolled around I was ready for a long break and it became much harder to maintain such a strict schedule until now.  It’s like the moment after work I am jammed with things to finish.  It’s nice to be busy but I can’t believe it’s JULY already.  In the past, almost 2 months, I’ve had one weekend off, and I had to lie to a ton of people making them think I was out of town so I could just crash.  I’m not big on lying but it was totally needed this time.  Okay, maybe not lying but an act of omission. LOL

I’m just being whiney.  Sorry; it’s just been on my mind for a while and it’s nice to just type it down.  The Frank thing is freaking me out to.  He is a little, I don’t know how to say it, not intense; but encompassing!  He is very nice but he is always saying things like, “I like you.”  Which is great, all people dating should want this right…of course….but he says it all the time!  Constantly, and he is constantly touching me!  It sounds awful but it’s like I’m eating pizza he’s rubbing my back.  We are sitting on the couch and he’s laying on me, and so on.  It is totally out of the realm of cuddling.  It’s almost as if it’s an over stimulation of the senses.  The “I like you” thing also scares me a touch because I feel like it’s his euphemism for love.  I don’t know but the way he says it makes me feel that instead of saying love he says like because it placates me because I am totally not into the boyfriend thing and especially love thing.  I know I don’t love him and that isn’t a bad thing we’ve only known each other for 5 months….I would think it is far too early for L word.  I mean come on 5 months!?!!?

That’s one good thing about my hectic schedule is that I can only see Frank once a week.  That is all the time I have for him and it isn’t like I’m restricted in terms of seeing other friends.  But it has cooled things off a bit for us.  Which is good…I think?!  The other thing that I find a little worrisome is that, as I mentioned above, I am holding the whole boyfriend title at bay.  It is quite the commitment that I’m not totally ready for.  Well, I just recently found out that Frank has been telling people we are boyfriends!?!?!?!!!?!?!?!?!?!!? (note the abundant use of punctuation)  I mean can you have a boyfriend without knowing?  Apparently yes, yes you can, I don’t think he knows I know and I haven’t brought it up to him yet.  I don’t know how to as of yet.  But I don’t like it.  I think that is clear indication that I have to set some intense boundaries or end things with Frank.

You’ll have to excuse my little venting bit!  In better news I got back from Boston last weekend after visiting my Urban Family.  It was lovely to catch up with them and it makes me wish we lived closer together.  This weekend we have a ton of people staying with Lauren and I.  We have a wedding on the 4th and a ton of people we know will be here.  I’m looking forward to catching up with them.  Now I just have to keep my drinking to a bare minimum considering all the running I’ve been doing!  But it is another fun, hectic, busy weekend. 

I hope you all are doing well!  Happy 4th of July!!!!!!  I hope your weekend is filled  with fun and exciting picnics and making out!   Here is a little video for you to enjoy!

 

Murder on the Dance Floor- Sophie Ellis Bextor

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Hello world.  It’s so nice to be back.  It has been so hectic at work I’ve been unable to blog appropriately to you all.  Things have been going good!  It feels so good to sit down and get to typing and seeing what has been going on in the blogging universe.  Let’s catch you up with the happenings in Erie.

 

Frank and I have been seeing each other for just about three months.  It has been great; he is a very nice guys and I enjoy the time we spend together.  With that said dating hasn’t come without some rough patches.  I’ve learned a whole bunch about juggling time between work, friends, family, and dating.  It becomes even more difficult when Frank started meeting my friends.  Our age difference still makes it awkward, at least for me, but what can I do.  I can’t stop enjoying the company of my friends just because Frank is older than me/us.  It has been a definite balancing act though.  I try to spend specific days with Frank and specific days with friends…then toss in 8 hours of work and day to day errands and it gets a little exhausting.  But all in all the dating is going well.

 

I just finished my summer schedule and literally every weekend this summer is filled.  I have five weddings 3 of which I’m in and a variety of rehearsals dinners, ball games, and a cottage vacation with Lauren and her family.  I’m burned out just thinking about it considering it begins the last weekend of this month.

 

Next Tuesday my Sister and I have tickets to go see Bruce Springsteen!!!!! I’m uber excited for it and going with my Sister.  We are going to go early and try and get into the pit.  I’m all about waiting in line for seven hours!!!!!!!  Plus I have a half day of work on Monday then I head home to stay with my parents.  It is going to be a great weekend!

 

Now for the really good stuff!  Gay Marriage!!!!  For those who haven’t been keeping up recent political movements Maine has legalized gay marriage!  It is great step in our battle for equal rights.  Not far behind Maine is New Hampshire.  There are hammering out the fine details but I’ve heard that New Hampshire Gov. John Lynch would sign the bill if the churches had some security measures against legal recourse if they refuse to marry gay couples.  Also on the march for rights is New York.  Its own gay marriage bill has passed the house and will go to the Senate.  This isn’t the first time New York has tried to pass a gay marriage bill (check the bottom of the link for the details). 

 

But with all this great movement for our right to be married we do have to remember a couple things.  First, we still have many, many states to see gay marriage bills passed.  Including those states with mini-DOMA’s.  Now is not the time to be complacent we need to still fight for our rights.  Just because several states understand the idea behind progressing the rights others deserve there are many more that would like to keep marriage a purely hetersexual right.  We Must Keep Fighting.  Secondly, we cannot foreget other aspect of our fight for rights.  We have to remember our transgendered community as well.  Also we have to remember we can’t just fight for gay marriage we have to fight for all rights for our LGBT Community.  I stumbled upon this article a few weeks ago and it is importantthat it be read.  It notes the struggles that gay, binational couples/married couples have.  You see while we hae some states that allow us to marry, federally we are not recognized as being married.  Whcih means binational coules cannot recieive their green cards and live ina country that recognizes their marriage.  This is an example of the differences between state and federally recognized rights.  This leads me to my final thing to remember.  These fights have been done at the state level not the federal level.  At some point in time we will have to hold Obama, his Administration, and the current Congress to their promises of equalit and pass rights at the federal level.  Otherwise our rights will memain a mishmas  of gine and with-held rights.  We deserve the full benefits of living in a country; this includes all rights provided by citizens and not just a buffet of rights.

 

Finally, last Thursday was my 1 year blog birthday.  I want to thank all those of you out there that take the time to read my rants and raves.  I love blogging and being part of such a wonderful and creative community.  I especially want to give my blogroll a shout out!  They help inspire and keep going.  I love the discourse we have with one another.  Everyone should check out those who are on my blogroll because they are awesome!!!! Woot woot!!!!!!!

 

Thank you bloggers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Hello bloggers!  I hope you are doing well and getting ready for a wonderful weekend.  Erie is starting to shed its winter and soggy spring and morphing into 70 degree with for the next four days.  It is about time considering were had a snow and rain mix (otherwise known as sleet).

I apologize for the late post.  The past week has been full tilt, balls to walls busy.  Between my regular daily routines (laundry, dinner, dishes etc…you know those fun adult things you have to do so you don’t live in squalor) work and more dating with Frank life has been quite busy actually.  You know the John Lennon quote, “Life happens when you are making up other plans” well that is what has been a happening recently.  It has been busy which isn’t necessarily bad. 

You heard right Frank and I are exclusively dating one another which is nice.  I am still trying to get my wits about dating.  Needless to say it has been quite some time since I’ve dated…let alone dated a man.  Yes in the past I have dated women but I never went beyond a nice make-out session.  Nope; no naked parties with the ladies!  We have been seeing each other for about two months and it has been really nice.  It is a whole different world when it comes to exclusively dating one person…after several years of playing the field without exclusivity being a top priority I find myself lost in the world of monogamy.  Not that I can’t be monogamous; that isn’t it at all (I sound like a cheater but I don’t cheat…eep!).  It’s that as you work your way through the dating world one become adept at one’s own independence.  It is a whole different perspective when you have to think about someone else, and let’s face it I would be lying if I said I didn’t enjoy my independence.  So I am slowly navigating the land of exclusive dating, proper dating etiquette (who is paying for the bill etc), trying not to see him too much during the week/making sure I see my friends too.  You know all the usual stuff.  So it’s been good and I will keep you abreast on the dating world!

I had one faithful reader ask me if I was going to do an editorial regarding the whole Miss California debacle.  I debated about it but I ultimately decided not to honor her with a full rant because she represents the ignorance of people…and because she said this on stage and has already been publically mock…which she should be.  There are a couple things to consider though regarding Miss California.  One, we will start with the Miss America contest itself.  **Sammy clears his throat and gets in touch with his feminist side** Of all the hackneyed places for a young woman to declare her feelings regarding the political hot bed of gay marriage, Miss California decides to do it on a stage where she is being judged on her outward appearance.  She does it on a stage where she and other young women parade around being judged for “scholarship” money.  I just think that it is ironic that this young woman decided to come out against gay marriage at an event that judges women in bathing suits.  I mean come on we are talking about a program that bases 20% of a contestants score on her evening wear compared to the 5% of her score being based on her on stage question.  Secondly, she’s correct when she says she didn’t win the crown because of the question.  If you really wanted that crown and you had any sense about you you would lie and say that you agreed with gay marriage or at least a civil union.  How could she not know the backlash of that question?  Apparently she didn’t want that crown bad enough.  But I will give her this at least she spoke up for what she believed in…I’m not sure if this was before or after the swimsuit section of the evening…but at least she was true to herself and  her character (**Sammy rolls his eyes and shakes his head).  We’ll see the tune she is whistling when the she has her first gay hair dresser yank out a fist full of hair because he can’t marry his partner because marriage is between a man and a woman.   Finally, I can’t take Miss California seriously because she paints herself up and squeezes herself into a dress to parade around in front of camera in a competition that considers your talent as 35% of your score and while judging your ability to look at the world and see an injustice and speak out against that injustice as 5%of their score…in my opinion Miss California score was very low in the onstage question portion of the evening and that speaks more about her than any bathing suit, talent, or evening gown could ever say about her.

 

Here is a little something for Miss California’s conservative sensibilities 😉  Have a great weekend everyone!  I’ve missed you and can’t wait to post with you next week.  And remember marriage can only be between a man and a woman 😉

 

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