Posted in blog, Erie, Erie PA, Gay, homosexual, Lake Anna, Lauren, Mike, Presque Isle Files, Sammy25, Virginia, weddings, tagged blog, Erie, Erie PA, Gay, homosexual, Lake Anna, Lauren, Mike, Presque Isle Files, Sammy25, Virginia, weddings on September 9, 2009|
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It is in my professional opinion that there is nothing more terrify or deeply troubling than a blind date. It is nerve wracking leading up to the event. Always worrying about what the other person is going to think of you and what kind of conversation you will need to produce to keep the date afloat etc. Frankly, it is a mess of an event…………can you guess what I am doing tonight?
Yep I am going on a blind date….a semi blind date would be a more appropriate title. We have texted back and forth and there was an exchange of a single picture via cell phone from each of us. Not those kinds of pictures (I know what you are thinking). So I do know what he looks like and vica versa. We have talked on the phone too…so maybe this will be a little better than a blind date…I hope.
His name is Mike and he is a friend of a friend of a friend. Convoluted I know but through several phone calls from a match maker friend of mine Mike ended up with my phone number and whabam….Thursday date night is on like Donkey Kong. He seems nice, he is 34, and has a job. All pluses in my book! So we will see how it goes and I will be sure to let you know all about it!
Two weeks ago was my cousin’s wedding. It was a ton of fun especially considering I saw a ton of my Family. The girl my cousin married is super cool and makes a great addition to the family. While the weekend was fun it was jam packed with activities and obligations to take care of. It felt like I drove all weekend. The I drove home Sunday morning to attend to a work function so needless to say I was busy busy busy. Below are some fun photos of the wedding, the church etc.
This past weekend I was in Virginia for a big birthday extravaganza. My friends who were married last October rented out a lake house on Lake Anna for the husbands birthday. So Lauren and I took a half day on Friday and drove to VA. The weekend was a blast. It was such a wonderful time seeing all the people that were there and the weather was perfection. It was a great way to end the summer. We swam and hot tubbed and ate all weekend J Pics are on their way.
That is about it for now; I hope you all had a fabulous weekend as well!
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Alright folks I’m stopping in for a quick post. I hope you are doing well. Things are moving pretty quickly recently. Work is pick up in pace and the summer is slowly waning away. It has been one heck of a summer filled with tons of rain and peppered with hot humid days. Not the summer day’s I’m particularly use to in Erie but I guess it could be a ton worse…it could already be snowing (gulp).
I had been tossing around several ideas on a fun way to update you with the things that have happened over the past couple of weeks and felt that a top 10 list, a la David Letterman. So here we go
10) Spent a glorious week at Lauren’s family’s cottage. It was filled with several days of nice weather (punctuated with rain of course), fun, family, and one of the hottest neighbor Dads ever. There was a large family staying in the cottage next to us and boy oh boy the Dad was some greatl eye candy.
9) Recently ran a 10K with my Sister while my parents were in town. It was a really nice visit and nice to have my parents as spectators…even though it was hotter than Hades during the run.
8) Frank and I parted ways after 6 months of dating. It was more so on my part then his. I just didn’t feel like it was working anymore. The initial attraction had fizzled and it was time to move on. So I’m back on the market.
7) Since being back on the market I’ve been hitting the gay bars in Erie more frequently. It is nice to get out and have some fun…What wasn’t fun was the older gentlemen who (intentionally) grazed my naughty bits while I was trying to exit the bar last night. We bumped into one another and apparently, unbeknownst to me, that was an invite for him to peruse the goods briefly. Before I could say anything, the drive by grazing was over and the man slipped away into the crowd. Gentlemen seek permission before grazing the bits it is only proper gay bar etiquette…or at least buy me a drink or two first (j/k).
6) Being out at the bars recently led to a fun/private swim party. That is all you will be privy to ;).
5) I’ve purchased another Bruce Springsteen ticket. The concert is on Nov. 10th in Cleveland. I thought it was the only proper way to celebrate my birthday. I am considering buying one for the Buffalo show (coincidentally his last show of his tour).
4) Next weekend is my last wedding of the summer. I’m a groomsman in my cousins wedding. I’m super excited because it is a family wedding so I get to see all of my Dad’s brothers and sisters and a ton of my extended family.
3) I’m finishing up a four month reading contest this week with Lauren. We decided at the beginning of May to read until the 31st of August and see who can win bragging rights for the most amount of pages read. I think that my next reading challenge is reading a bunch of books that are subsequently turned into movies. Ex. “One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest,” “Cat on a Hot Tin Roof,” “A Streetcar Named Desire,” “The Secret Life of Bees,” “The Hours,” “Lovely Bones,” “The Time Travelers Wife,” “Peter Pan,” “Alice in Wonderland, “ etc. I’m looking for other suggestions from you!
2) I was summoned for jury duty. Which secretly I’m super excited about!
1) I’ve missed blogging with all of you!
Well that is it for the time being! Wish me luck for the weekend and have a lovely rest of the day.
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So I just wanted to do a real quick update. My training for the half marathon has been going well. My longs over the past two weeks have become longer and longer culminating in a 10 mile run last Sunday. This Sunday is the big event. My legs have been a little sore recently and, while I’ve never had them before, shin splints have become more apparent recently. My goals are to run the entire 13.1 miles and keep my time below 3 hours. I have been running a 12/12:30 minute mile and if I can keep the pace my time should be about 2 hours and 45 minutes barring any falls or intense pains that my slow my pace.
I’m nervous about the whole run. I think I’ve just reached a point where I’m ready to just do it. A couple things I’m nervous about is having really bad shin splint pains, running those last 3 miles. I know I can run ten miles but when I run on Sunday I will not know if I can run 13 miles. While the training schedule I have elicited this idea of not running the full 13 miles before race day it still leaves those last three miles as not only a physical challenge but also a mental challenge. I’m also nervous about the run being in the morning. The race starts at 7:30 a.m. Now the worry about this is that I’m usually a 6 p.m. type runner. I’ve found that when I run in the morning it takes me longer to set my pace and I’m usually achier compared to my evening run.
Well, I guess I won’t know until Sunday how everything goes!
The one good thing about Sunday is that Frank won’t be there. It is one less thing for me to worry about. It’s a weird statement yes but I think it’s because my parents and a variety of mixed company will be there to see me, and my Sister, run and some people know I’m gay, some don’t, and while I’ve told my parents years ago that I’m of the gay persuasion we’ve never really talked about it since then. How awkward would it be if the older gentleman I’m dating would end up running into my parents? GULP. It is one thing I don’t have to worry about because Frank is in Vermont at a conference which is one less thing I have fret about on top of running 13.1 miles.
My 4th of July was lovely. I had a wedding to attend with a ton of college alumni and it was just a wonderful weekend in general. We had a bunch of out of town friends staying with us over the weekend and it was great seeing them all and catching up with them.
Things since then have slowed down nicely which I’m appreciative of! June was awfully hectic and it is hard to see your summer fly by. Granted I had a ton of fun these past weeks, it is hard on the schedule and the pocketbook. But can you really put a price on memories!?
One of the nice things now is that after the busy summer I’ve already had and the upcoming half marathon is that next week I’m on vacation all week. Lauren’s parents rented their cottage again and asked me to stay with them for the week! Sweet, sweet vacation I’m totally excited for it. It is a nice midsummer reward. Now if I can just make it through Sunday without dying I’ll be gold.
So as a warning I will be gone all next week and unable to update or even check my blog L But have no fears I’ll be back on Monday to give you all the gory details of the half marathon and vacation. I’m going to miss you all!!!!!!!!! Make sure you have some naughty fun on my behalf 😉
As a little extra here is a song by the Noisettes called “Never Forget You.” A friend sent me the song and I’ve fallen in love with it and the band!
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Posted in blog, Erie, Erie PA, Gay, homosexual, New Jersey, NJ, Presque Isle Files, Sammy25, weddings, tagged blog, Erie, Erie PA, Gay, homosexual, New Jersey, NJ, Presque Isle Files, Sammy25, weddings on June 12, 2009|
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I’m heading home tonight then I fly to New Jersey to visit Curly Wurly Gurly attend a friends wedding in which I have to do a reading…wish me luch and I will have all the fun gay details for you when I get back. I’m out for the weekend bitches! 😉
Have a good weekend yourselves…whatever you hotties may be doing!
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Posted in asian, best friend, blog, Erie, Erie PA, Gay, homosexual, lost cell phone, Presque Isle Files, Sammy25, tagged asian, best friend, blog, Erie, Erie PA, Gay, grooms men, homosexual, lost cell phone, Presque Isle Files, Sammy25, weddings on June 8, 2009|
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I have returned after attending my best friend from high schools wedding. It was a busy busy weekend with tons of fun, dancing, and visiting. The wedding itself was perfect. From the dress, to the food, to the band etc. I don’t know any bride that could have asked for anything more! The groomsmen were only semi cute so that was a bust. But I did run into several people from high school that were a year or two older than me. One guy came over and was asked if I went to high school with him and I said yes (realizing I knew who he who he was). He didn’t recognize me with my beard which was funny. He was tanked and we chatted for a while it was good catching up with him. He’s still as cute as he was in high school and imagine my surprise when he invited me up to his hunting camp. Granted he was drunk and doesn’t know that I’m gay and that I would probably make out with him but I will still take it as a nice stroke to my ego LOL.
All in all I had a blast and I was quite happy/sad seeing my best friend getting married. The weekend was good. The only downside was the fact that my Sister lost her phone while making out with her first Asian guy. I KNOW I KNOW. Looking back no wonder she never answered my frantic phone calls while I was looking for her. There were six of us total looking for her phone in a field in almost complete darkness. A mess yes but definitely something I can blog about.
I can’t put my suit away quite yet. I have another wedding at the end of this week in New Jersery. I fly out Friday night for the Sunday wedding and I fly back on Monday. I have to do a reading for this weekend so I can’t skip the wedding but I am still uber excited for it!
Frank is doing well we are approaching 4 months. The dating has been good thus far. We are holding off on the term boyfriend for the time being. One of the reasons is because I am so busy this summer and I don’t want him to feel like he is attached to someone who is to busy for quality time. But we are dating each other in a more exclusive sense. Two, the term boyfriend freaks me out a bit because he would be my first boyfriend.
So that is it for the moment. I am working on several posts I hope to get up this week! I might get another one up today if I can stop being so sloth like 😉 Have a great day everyone!!!!!
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Posted in binational couples, blog, blog birthday, Blogroll, Bruce Springsteen, cabin, congress, Dating, Defense of Marriage Act, DOMA, Erie, Erie PA, Frank, Gay, gay marriage, gay rights, Gov. John Lynch, homosexual, LGBT Community, Maine, New Hampshire, New York, Obama, Presque Isle Files, Sammy25, weddings, tagged binational couples, blog, blog birthday, Blogroll, Bruce Springsteen, cabin, congress, Dating, Defense of Marriage Act, DOMA, Erie, Erie PA, Frank, Gay, gay marriage, gay rights, Gov. John Lynch, homosexual, LGBT Community, Maine, New Hampshire, New York, Obama, Presque Isle Files, Sammy25, weddings on May 15, 2009|
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Hello world. It’s so nice to be back. It has been so hectic at work I’ve been unable to blog appropriately to you all. Things have been going good! It feels so good to sit down and get to typing and seeing what has been going on in the blogging universe. Let’s catch you up with the happenings in Erie.
Frank and I have been seeing each other for just about three months. It has been great; he is a very nice guys and I enjoy the time we spend together. With that said dating hasn’t come without some rough patches. I’ve learned a whole bunch about juggling time between work, friends, family, and dating. It becomes even more difficult when Frank started meeting my friends. Our age difference still makes it awkward, at least for me, but what can I do. I can’t stop enjoying the company of my friends just because Frank is older than me/us. It has been a definite balancing act though. I try to spend specific days with Frank and specific days with friends…then toss in 8 hours of work and day to day errands and it gets a little exhausting. But all in all the dating is going well.
I just finished my summer schedule and literally every weekend this summer is filled. I have five weddings 3 of which I’m in and a variety of rehearsals dinners, ball games, and a cottage vacation with Lauren and her family. I’m burned out just thinking about it considering it begins the last weekend of this month.
Next Tuesday my Sister and I have tickets to go see Bruce Springsteen!!!!! I’m uber excited for it and going with my Sister. We are going to go early and try and get into the pit. I’m all about waiting in line for seven hours!!!!!!! Plus I have a half day of work on Monday then I head home to stay with my parents. It is going to be a great weekend!
Now for the really good stuff! Gay Marriage!!!! For those who haven’t been keeping up recent political movements Maine has legalized gay marriage! It is great step in our battle for equal rights. Not far behind Maine is New Hampshire. There are hammering out the fine details but I’ve heard that New Hampshire Gov. John Lynch would sign the bill if the churches had some security measures against legal recourse if they refuse to marry gay couples. Also on the march for rights is New York. Its own gay marriage bill has passed the house and will go to the Senate. This isn’t the first time New York has tried to pass a gay marriage bill (check the bottom of the link for the details).
But with all this great movement for our right to be married we do have to remember a couple things. First, we still have many, many states to see gay marriage bills passed. Including those states with mini-DOMA’s. Now is not the time to be complacent we need to still fight for our rights. Just because several states understand the idea behind progressing the rights others deserve there are many more that would like to keep marriage a purely hetersexual right. We Must Keep Fighting. Secondly, we cannot foreget other aspect of our fight for rights. We have to remember our transgendered community as well. Also we have to remember we can’t just fight for gay marriage we have to fight for all rights for our LGBT Community. I stumbled upon this article a few weeks ago and it is importantthat it be read. It notes the struggles that gay, binational couples/married couples have. You see while we hae some states that allow us to marry, federally we are not recognized as being married. Whcih means binational coules cannot recieive their green cards and live ina country that recognizes their marriage. This is an example of the differences between state and federally recognized rights. This leads me to my final thing to remember. These fights have been done at the state level not the federal level. At some point in time we will have to hold Obama, his Administration, and the current Congress to their promises of equalit and pass rights at the federal level. Otherwise our rights will memain a mishmas of gine and with-held rights. We deserve the full benefits of living in a country; this includes all rights provided by citizens and not just a buffet of rights.
Finally, last Thursday was my 1 year blog birthday. I want to thank all those of you out there that take the time to read my rants and raves. I love blogging and being part of such a wonderful and creative community. I especially want to give my blogroll a shout out! They help inspire and keep going. I love the discourse we have with one another. Everyone should check out those who are on my blogroll because they are awesome!!!! Woot woot!!!!!!!
Thank you bloggers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Hello ladies and gentlemen; I hope you all have had a lovely weekend. Mine was jammed packed and I am paying for it this exhausting Monday afternoon.
You know the saying “when it rains it pours” well that seems to apply adequately enough to my dating/love life. We know about my search for Price Charming has led me currently to Brad…who doesn’t seem to working out as I thought it would (which I’ll explain in a bit)…well wouldn’t you know I go our Friday evening and I meet someone. Let us not get to excited yet there are some terms and conditions that come with this one. As I have mentioned I have been doing some LGBT activism work and though it I’ve met a ton of people (most of whom I can’t remember their names because it’s such a fast introduction and then work)…while I was out on Friday with Steve I end up running into one of the guys we had met. His name is Frank. He’s there with a couple of his friends and we all start chatting…I’m eyeing up one of his friends that I’m thinking I will end up on the dance floor with when Frank begins to pay some attention to me. He comments on my glasses and calls them sexy….not a compliment I usually receive…and he strikes up a conversation with me. I’m drinking not heavily but enough to enjoy the evening and I can’t help but flirt back…I can’t help myself when I get some booze in my system. It’s really nice we chat with each other around the bar, the conversation is not forced, I’m enjoying his presence, in general he seems like a nice guy. He buys me a drink, and I make an innocuous comment that he is trying to get me drunk to get in my pants…he laughs and says maybe…would I try to stop him if he tried to get in my pants….probably not. Why not? Because while even though I tell everyone that I want to some traditional dating I am still a man who likes attention and sex (perhaps shallow but true). All of a sudden “Sexual Healing” (how ironic) (the Shaggy version which I coincidentally love) comes on…what do I do…slug back the rest of my beer, throw my arms around Frank and tell him to take me out on the dance floor to dance with me….wouldn’t you do that. So there we are, I’m in a semi-boozy haze, with a man that seems to be attracted to me enjoying one of my favorite songs; Frank is doing all the right things putting his hands on my hips, sliding his fingertips just into the tops of my pockets, or giving a slight tug on my belt loops…just enough to be coy and sexual without being to overly aggressive or creepy…I am enjoying myself…we keep dancing for a bit. Eventually, we move off the dance floor, he is getting ready to leave we exchange numbers….I have ulterior motives obviously at this point….who doesn’t want to make out with someone on a Friday night when it just so happens your roommate is out of town and you have your apartment to yourself. We exchange goodbyes a quick peck on the lips and he is gone…I text him to come over…he tells me that he didn’t want to because I was to nice and special to do that (good answer) I tell him that the offer still stands, he says it might be moving to fast for him (another good answer even though I do want to make out with him), he texts me back telling me he is already regretting not coming over (the Russian judges give him a 10 out 10 for that all star text) and eventually we say good night to each other. We spend the rest of the weekend texting each other. Some of the texts are fun, some flirty, others just texts. We’ve been hashing out a date possibly this week which is good. All in all I’m pretty excited, but there is one problem……he is 20 years older than me!!!!!! Eep.
So I don’t know what to do. He seems really nice, said all the right things, wants to take things slow and be more traditional in terms of going on dates (which for all intensive purposes doesn’t mean a commitment), but I don’t know what to think about the age thing. I mean I don’t know if I want to date someone who is 20 years older than me…but on the other hand everyone who’s around my age (who’ve I’ve tried hitting on, asking out, etc.) has never really given me the time of day. Take Brad for example, we talked on Thursday and had open ended plans to maybe go out on Monday (to get to know each other). I don’t call until Sunday leave a message and he still has yet to call me back. Of course I am over analyzing the whole thing with Frank. But, he has shown me more interest than other guys and I don’t want to not take that with a grain of salt. I’m going to call Frank tonight see if he does want to go out on Wednesday for dinner…and see where it goes from there. Who ever said dating was fun must have been married…or on a lot of acid/cocaine. Okay I’m freaked out a little and just ranting wildly on my blog. I’m done…maybe…thanks for listening….you will hear more…perhaps even today Okay moving on!
I watched the Oscars (Frank and I texted all night though them sorry I’m done now) and I enjoyed the format this year. I loved the idea that they created a 1940’s bandstand etc. Let’s take a moment and enjoy Hugh Jackman and how delicious he was…the dresses were flawless. It was just a great Oscar’s night…especially when “Milk” took home two prizes. Sean Penn deserved the Oscar and I loved his speech especially when he lampooned those who voted for Prop. 8. But, I think the best was when Dustin Lance Black won Best Original Screen play!!!!!!! His speech brought me to tears….I’ll admit it. When he told all those young “boys and girls that they were beautiful creatures and that god loves them”…it was beautiful. I don’t know if he will realize that telling these young gay men and women that they were full of worth and value was an important and validating thing for many of them(us). In a world of hate and marginalization Black spoke beautifully and poignantly about the value of human life even if that life is gay…what he said had more of an impact on me than any religion or religious person has said to me in a long time.
Of course I was rooting for “Milk” to win best picture but I knew deep down inside when “Slumdog Millionaire” won at the SAG awards Best Picture it would take home the Oscar’s Best Picture. I was so excited that Kate Winslet finally won an Oscar…and I loved all the Best Actress and Best Supporting Actress nominees. I think they are great and that they will have long careers ahead of them.
On a final note I not only worked all weekend I also drove to Buffalo to go to a wedding with Lauren (she was in the bridal party and looked flawless). Yes, Frank and I texted during the entire reception…now I’m done. The wedding was beautiful and the reception was a blast.
Okay I’m done for now, I’m sorry for the long post and it’s randomness and obvious lack of form. We will discuss my neurosis a little more once I find out if I am going out to dinner with Frank.
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